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November 29, 2017 at 10:00 am #179945AnonymousGuest
Dear cali sister:
The first step to take, always, when figuring what to do to improve your life is to relax best you can. Even if only for a short moment. After all, you already have the experience of being calm, sometimes. Catch a moment of calm and take advantage of it. Then make one action step, a phone call to a career coach perhaps. Then go about living, later to relax best you can and see the coach. If anxious during the appointment, maybe you can record the appointment for later viewing, when calm.
A bit at a time, calm-> small action, break, calm-> next action, congratulate yourself for action taken, give yourself time.
anita
November 29, 2017 at 1:46 pm #179985cali sisterParticipantAnita,
Thanks. I think i struggle with the pressure of always knowing. But – i do know i deserve a break. schooling was intense and my job is intense. i do not need to rush
November 30, 2017 at 3:41 am #180029AnonymousGuestDear cali sister:
I don’t understand “I struggle with the pressure of always knowing“?
You mentioned a break, reads good to me, taking time out for yourself, a vacation of sorts, alone in a small village in another country… away from your life as-is.
anita
November 30, 2017 at 8:05 am #180053cali sisterParticipantAnita,
pressure of always knowing refers to always having a plan and being academically/career oriented. However, of recent – i can put no energy towards this. I am exhausted
my life has been go go go. stress. anxiety. go go go. it would be nice to stop – however, i dont think this is sustainable (finance wise)
- This reply was modified 6 years, 11 months ago by cali sister.
November 30, 2017 at 8:29 am #180065AnonymousGuestDear cali sister:
It is probably not sustainable financially and in any other way for you to keep this “go go go. stress. anxiety. go go go.”
How about a walk in nature, once a day, or so. Taking time out.
anita
November 30, 2017 at 8:45 am #180067cali sisterParticipantanita,
yes i am very good about making time like that for myself. i spend a lot of time outside
let’s go back to when i talked about the root of my anxiety and my mother etc. so the ROOT is that i consistenly put myself down and have this fear or true confidence that i will fail. so before reading an article, but head already says “well you wont get it anyway” (Which i know is not true, bc i know i am very intelligent) – but this hinders me from reading and causes so much stress
cali sister
November 30, 2017 at 9:34 am #180071AnonymousGuestDear cali sister:
“Well you won’t get it anyway”- the origin of this thought?
Did your mother say something like that to you, not necessarily in regard to reading?
anita
December 1, 2017 at 7:17 am #180209cali sisterParticipantanita,
yes – she has said that to me about everything. i am never good enough or strong enough or as smart as others – in her eyes. always puts me down
December 1, 2017 at 8:32 am #180217AnonymousGuestDear cali sister:
Your mother exists in your brain as a combination of many neuropathways. This combination functions as a … mental representative of your mother. In her absence, it terrorizes you just as she has done. Maybe even more so because it has your eyes to see all that is happening in your day, and that is a lot of material to put you down for.
Repeatedly terrorized by your mother’s mental rep, your anxiety, the blur is maintained.
This is not necessarily a life sentence. What do you think?
anita
December 1, 2017 at 8:47 am #180219cali sisterParticipantanita,
yes – i completely agree. it is not a life sentence. but i dont know how to get bailed out
December 1, 2017 at 8:59 am #180225AnonymousGuestDear cali sister:
You go about it by the very slow process of interrupting those neuropathways by inserting realistic, truthful thoughts into it and by relaxing, over time, into a greater awareness of the experience of your childhood.
Such is best done in quality psychotherapy and may not be possible otherwise.
There is no quick way, no short cuts. Unfortunately.
anita
December 1, 2017 at 9:01 am #180227cali sisterParticipantanita,
i understand. i have an appointment scheduled
December 1, 2017 at 9:05 am #180229AnonymousGuestDear cali sister:
It is important, crucial for the process, to choose the right psychotherapist, to go about it purposefully, with objectives stated early. It is amazing what progress you can achieve in a few months, with the right help and with ongoing work, persistence and patience. Once on your way, in this process, you will be able to continue the work without a therapist’s further help, or while seeing the therapist less frequently.
Post again anytime.
anita
December 1, 2017 at 9:08 am #180231cali sisterParticipantanita,
i would love to write more – but i feel as if it may just be a diary entry – bc the answer is in what you just said – psychotherapy – so then i feel…well whats the point if i know the solution
December 1, 2017 at 9:28 am #180235AnonymousGuestDear cali sister:
I don’t understand: “what’s the point if I know the solution”?
anita
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