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  • September 15, 2015 at 6:47 pm #83414
    Anonymous
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    Dear Sarah:

    I highly recommend that you end your relationship with your mother. No texting, no calling, no visiting, nothing. You owe her nothing and your self sacrifice for her so far has filled you with anxiety, distress and you are exhausted. You have the right to choose who is in your life and who is not.

    anita

    September 15, 2015 at 7:13 pm #83416
    Brian
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    Sarah,

    I can very much relate to carrying stuff around from childhood, stuff that I don’t need anymore or don’t want. It’s a hard way to live, being worried because others worry about you. Given all that you wrote, it does look to come straight from your mother. I gotta agree with anita: you need to have your mother out of your life. Don’t give her a way back in (such as “Can you call me every other day?” or something similar). From what you write she seems utterly poisonous to you. Do you think you can do this? I really hope so.

    How much do you practice breathing and/or meditating? With practice, these can help too. But removing your mother from your life certainly seems to be the most important single thing you can do right now.

    September 15, 2015 at 7:33 pm #83418
    jock
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    How courageous you are Sarah!
    I agree with Anita.
    Strict boundaries with your mother until she gets the message.
    That will take a long time.(that she gets the message)
    You need to make a brave decision to protect yourself even though that nagging voice inside will say “don’t be so cruel”.That voice will try to make you feel guilty! Don’t fall for it. Be strong!

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