Dear Marnie:

“When I brought up my teaching job, he said he hadn’t even considered it and that I could just break the contract”- he was inconsiderate to not consider your thoughts and feelings about moving across the country. He should not have made that decision on his own, before asking for your input.

Did I understand correctly, that you will stay where you are now, working as a teacher and caring for your daughter and pets while he moves across the country by himself?

I didn’t understand this sentence: “He said that it will make him happy, but it is at my expense”- did he say that it will make him happy if you stay where you are, work as a teacher and take care of your daughter for as long as you pay for the living expenses of yourself, your daughter and your pets??

anita

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Dear Marnie:

Like I suggested, your husband should talk to you before he makes decisions that affect you. It is selfish of him to not ask you for your thoughts and your feelings about what he considers to do, and take your thoughts and your feelings seriously.

When he doesn’t consider your feelings/ your well being, what happens as a result is just what you wrote: you are “left taking care of the family while he just does what he wants”.

Is he selfish overall, as a husband and as a father?

anita