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  • #221725
    Anonymous
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    Dear PrettyInPink:

    Reads like an excellent idea, to take him off any pedestal that you put him on before. And it makes sense to me that it is not a good idea to invest significant time and resources in meeting him in person because he doesn’t ask you questions about yourself.

    No reason to travel a long way so to “exchange the basic pleasantries… blah blah blah”- you can continue to do this on WhatsApp.

    anita

     

    #221731
    PrettyInPink
    Participant

    thank you Anita. I always look forward to your advice. 🙂

     

    #222513
    PrettyInPink
    Participant

    Hi Anita

    So here is the update. I basically also pulled away as I said. I was supposed to go see him in October, but I decided that I didn’t want to go anymore because I did not have any incentive to go. Guess what? He texted me last night and told me that the borders to the country where he lives have been temporarily closed. I don’t believe him but I can’t be bothered to find out if it is true because I already decided I wasn’t going anyway. So when he texted me that my response was “oh ok. I didn’t think you wanted me to still come” he was like “why would you think that? did I say you can’t come?” So I responded “No you didn’t but you never talked about it” he was like “oh ok”. So this morning I texted him and asked him “So since we are not meeting this year, what do you want to do?” he was like “I will wait”. So I told him “I am not willing to wait, not because I don’t want to meet him, but because he hasn’t given me any incentive for me to come see him.” His response? “Oh ok”. I would have liked for him to ask me what I meant but he did not. So I take it that he is not interested. That was a few hours ago.

    Anyway. I deleted his number out of my phone. I have no way of contacting him since I did not memorize his number. I kind of feel bad because I really did like him. But I only want to like someone that also likes me not just me liking them if not I am wasting my time. Been there done that and I learnt from it. So I have let this one go 🙁

     

     

    #222531
    Anonymous
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    Dear PrettyInPink:

    Good initiative on your part, to end contact with him. From the recent exchanges with him, he clearly showed little to no interest in seeing you, “Oh ok” is a very weak incentive for meeting anyone, especially for traveling to another country, borders closed or not, so to meet him!

    I understand that you feel sad because you liked him and had hopes. But better be sad now than more sad (and angry, probably) later).

    I hope to read from you again, anytime!

    anita

    #222637
    maggie mac
    Participant

    Brave girl! Way to go. You absolutely did the right thing.

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