Dear Emma:

After John’s relationship with his girlfriend ended and before your relationship with your boyfriend became exclusive, you rejected john by telling him that you were dating another guy. For months later you continued to date your boyfriend and eventually he found another girlfriend.

To answer your question: “do you think I’m really in love with John or I am obsessed because of an uncompleted love? Is it just lust? OR something else?”, I need your answer to my question:

– why did you choose to give John space when he asked you to make a move (which meant he didn’t want space, and wanted to be in a relationship with you, if I understand correctly)?

anita

Dear Emma:

“When he came back he told me that I was the one who had to make a move to take it a step further“- he meant that he wanted a relationship with you, and for some reason wanted you to bring up having a girlfriend-boyfriend relationship with him, didn’t he? That’s how I interpret what he said.

How do you understand what he said (the italicized above)?

anita