I have heard about visualization that it’s useful to imagine not just where you want to be, but the steps you will take to get there, the process, the transition from now to the future if you will. Unless you do that there’s a feeling of “where I am now is not ok, I want to be there instead”, whereas what you want is a feeling of “here’s where I’m headed”.

I have also read that there may be evidence people who keep visualizing achieving their goals and getting the satisfaction from having achieved them can become a bit stagnant as they already feel they have done the work, so to speak…

Just focus on where you are now, day by day. It’s good to have a journey in mind, but remember life happens today, not in the future. And the journey is almost always better than the destination. It’s really cool you have decided ‘who you want to be’, too – just remember that life unfolds very unpredictably sometimes, moment by moment, and being open and receptive to those changes can be so powerful too.

You might also want to try the Stoic concept of imagining the worst. What’s the worst that could possibly happen? Sounds counter-intuitive and maybe it is, but actually it can be quite comforting to confront and even embrace failure, it frees you up so you stop worrying about the possibility of things not going how you want. After all the worry you speak of is clearly about this dream not manifesting itself in reality. Well, perhaps it will, perhaps it won’t. Being ok with both scenarios (whilst obviously greatly preferring the former) is IMO good ‘spirituality’.

Much love