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February 20, 2016 at 8:08 pm #96607
AnonymousGuestDear Wisdom:
Deal, one thing per day then, starting tomorrow. Pay attention so you can find one thing to do out of the ordinary, preferably something that requires a bit of courage. Looking forward to your daily reports! And nothing can be too small of a thing, okay?
Good night, Wisdom. Till tomorrow
anitaFebruary 20, 2016 at 8:21 pm #96610
WisdomParticipantgot it anita! talk to you tomorrow! goodnight 🙂
February 20, 2016 at 8:37 pm #96612AnonymousGuestGoodnight, Wisdom!
anitaFebruary 21, 2016 at 4:22 pm #96693WisdomParticipantanita –
i haven’t done anything on edge, but i am however, cleaning up old files and stuff like that that i’ve kept from old friendships and all. it’s actually a little awkward to do since i hoard a bit, but hopefully it’s a step forward to something. and i actually got that essay done today so that’s good!
February 21, 2016 at 7:40 pm #96701AnonymousGuestDear Wisdom:
Excellent! I am so glad you followed through with your decision of yesterday with your first post today! Cleaning up old files and such, excellent initiative today!
Looking forward to something new tomorrow. And remember no initiative is too small…
anita
February 22, 2016 at 3:14 pm #96814WisdomParticipantanita –
today i had to do group work in my english class and i’m shy so that’s something that pretty much breaks a little bit of ice, but other than that i don’t think i’ve done something (on my own will anyway). i did treat myself by buying a few things at the store. and then i had therapy today. it wasn’t the best session. we always spend most of the time talking about school, but i feel if i talk about something else i’d come off as pretty strange. it’s hard to talk about spirituality when someone’s trying to resolve situations in a almost medical way.
February 22, 2016 at 7:48 pm #96827AnonymousGuestDear Wisdom:
I do appreciate you following through and posting a second day. So you broke a little ice in group work. That is good. You treated yourself to some things you like, this is good. And you had a therapy session. Wish there was more help there for you.
Tomorrow, break a bit more ice somewhere along the way, tomorrow. Break just a bit of ice… or sweat. And let me know. And when you post to me here, we can in addition keep talking about anything and everything you would like.
Till later, Take good care of your precious self!
anitaFebruary 22, 2016 at 7:54 pm #96829WisdomParticipanti sure will anita! and you take care of yourself too! 🙂
February 23, 2016 at 6:54 am #96884WisdomParticipantanita –
this is what i’ve been thinking about this morning: is lacking activity in our interests meaning that we don’t like something?
like you know how people say things like “oh if you don’t do this or that for whatever person, then that means you never really loved them”. something like that. but what if you just don’t feel up to something or maybe like you can do something?
like reading. i love to read, but i haven’t really read anything in a while. i’ve been too out of my own senses to really concentrate on it and i already have all this other stuff from school to read. should i feel bad for not actively having fun or does that mean that i’m not necessarily interested in reading and learning on my own? i don’t know if this made sense, but hopefully it does even a little bit.
February 23, 2016 at 6:56 am #96885WisdomParticipanti mean it doesn’t make sense for me to complain about being bored when i know what will be fun for me right? but when it comes to doing the thing and you don’t really feel like it or you genuinely can’t, what is that? what does that mean? how can we fix that?
February 23, 2016 at 12:08 pm #96920AnonymousGuestDear Wisdom:
I strongly believe, like I wrote to you on your new thread, that you shouldn’t feel badly about anything at all that you feel. You don’t choose what you feel. You don’t choose your energy level: if you feel weak, you feel weak. If you feel anxious, then your curiosity is not there (fear drowns curiosity and interests,; fear is like shrinking, not expanding; it is withdrawing, not reaching out), so no, dear Wisdom, you shouldn’t feel badly about anything at all that you feel, and please do not. Please accept what you feel with as much empathy as you can.
When you don’t feel like doing something that could be fun, well… you don’t feel like doing it and that is okay. If you feel like trying to do something even if a big part of you doesn’t feel like doing it, then you can try. That is if you feel a little bit like doing it. Be easy on yourself. Somebody needs to be easy on yourself so let it be you!
anita
February 23, 2016 at 2:32 pm #96939WisdomParticipantyou’re right, anita. i think that usually i feel like when we have certain feelings we sort of bring something to ourselves, so like with the horror movies, it kind of gives you a thrill, but it gives you fear too. the confusion might come from people saying things like (the same example as before) “if you really like that person you would do xyz”. just the ultimatums people put up. they make you feel like you have to do a certain thing or act or feel a certain way to fufill what you say you are or enjoy.
February 23, 2016 at 3:06 pm #96946AnonymousGuestDear Wisdom:
People say a whole lot of things that are not true. You know the concept of “Critical Thinking”- not believing everything you read in a book, or online…same with what you hear people say. There is so much…. so very much that people say that is simply not true. So if you believe what people say just because they said it (no matter who they are) you will be confused because different people say contradictory things.
Also every person is correct sometimes, even a broken clock is correct twice every 24 hours. And no person is right all the time. So once you search for the truth, relying more and more on your own senses and thinking, you get to figure out what of what people say is simply … not true or true only in certain circumstances and not in others.
anita
February 23, 2016 at 4:34 pm #96962WisdomParticipantthat’s one thing i have to work on. sometimes i ponder on certain things way too long and almost make the things seem real or i take it into consideration like “maybe that is true. maybe that’s really a thing”. but other things could totally be baloney haha! going with gut feelings about things is something i need to do more often.
February 23, 2016 at 8:16 pm #96992AnonymousGuestDear Wisdom:
Yes, better to not bother yourself with baloney! I like the new thread today very much. Tomorrow is another day and another thing to report! Remember be it small or big, anything different that takes a little bit of courage!
Good night, Wisdom! Good work!!!
anita
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