Dear J:
You wrote that the way you see it is that she SHOULD be happy… if she is upset and you think she SHOULD be HAPPY and you want to convey to her that what she is feeling is the WRONG feeling, you better not find a quote to that affect. Don’t tell her or anyone else, including yourself how he or she or you SHOULD be feeling. People feel what they feel. Don’t tell anyone their feelings are wrong or unacceptable.
anita