Hi there
I don’t know if it would work for you but after my 20 year marriage broke down, I went on a dating site. This gave me back my confidence. I met some lovely men who very complimentary but I also found it so interesting hearing other people’s stories/ situation.This was a huge distraction from my break up. You don’t evere even have to actually go on a date if you don’t feel ready,just enjoy the interaction.
Hope that helps.x

Hello there David. Nice to “meet you” and I would very much like to help you out. I too just like you was in the same emotional state, but guess what I’m free and clear today. It was not easy, but I pulled through. For me the last straw was after all the back and forth, restablishing contact and experiencing the dreaded silent treatment followed by an excuse after I tried to be real and vulnerable. That was the catalyst. In the months that followed, I got back and “focused” on my career while at the same time trying to heal myself. One tool that I used was on YouTube and watching videos from Robert Wong’s Self Redirection channel. It really did help. Learning that others behavior are not your responsibility and that they are just hurting, sometimes even worse than you are. Improve your self control/ discipline by blocking her out of your life; real and social and start healing yourself. It can truly be accomplished. Thanks and take care.

Hey Dave, if it will help you feel better? you are not alone going through this. There 100s of people on this site. including me! your story sounds exactly like mine! From experience, time is the only healer unfortunately! There is no easy way out when your heart been broken! sounds like you we’re doing everything to help yourself, staying busy! Taking about it! There nothing worse then breaking up getting back together over and over and over! I been there too! wish I had a answer for you! For the suicide thoughts, you should go to the nearest Emergency room! I am sorry to to say but, I would break clean with her!!! cause then pain is just going to get worse breaking up getting together over and over! Good Luck!

Hi David,

The title should be emotionally manipulative girl. It sounds like the girl does not think about or does not care about your feelings (what happens when you make up and break up). She may not be mature enough to be in a committed relationship. Being single I promise is better than being in a relationship that makes you feel rejected and lonely. You don’t need this person to be happy. Learn how to validate and support yourself and try not to resort to alcohol etc. Having a supportive partner who allows you to feel safe and secure is wonderful. I know you’re trying hard, but try harder and move on to someone else who can give you what you need.

Annie