Hi Kiera,

Consider the possibility that it’s not an either/or choice. Perhaps you could be a singing lawyer or a dancing nurse. I can see the headlines now, “Meet Kiera, The Woman Who Transformed Nursing Through Dance.” Your parents come from a time when people were mostly one thing during their whole work life. It’s a new world now, you’ll most likely have seven careers. There are many ways to get started on your dreams that don’t involve dropping everything else. Join a church choir, volunteer at a local dance studio for the poor, try out for local theater, play guitar on the street. Here’s the most important part. Your parents probably don’t realize that, like it or not, they too will end up switching roles and careers as they get older. That can be a hard go if they’ve never given it any thought. Now, imagine a time when something changes and they have to change to new roles. They’re lost and confused. Then one of them thinks, “Hey, remember how Kiera started pursuing her dreams? We could do something like that now even though we’re 50 or 60 or whatever.” In other words, what you do now will be a resource for your parents somewhere down the road. So, get out there and give something a try. See what happens. Change course accordingly. You’re gonna have a blast!

Cheers, Norna

By the way Kiera, if you believe I can help you in any way based on my experience I’d love to coach you further via Skype or something else. I know it can be quite a rough situation and I want to contribute to making it easier for you.

Best,
Anders

Your answer ‘I don’t know’ when you were asked what you want to do in life is already correct. And the notion enforced by our society that we should know what we want to do by the time we graduate from high school is sadly poor guidance. How is anyone supposed to know what they want to do when they’ve experienced so little? *Wink*, exactly. Don’t concern yourself with the expectations of others and society. Your own happiness is what counts as it is what’s at stake. Explore everything and anything you’re curious about. Experience and experiment until you find something dedicating your heart to, which actually brings me to your dreams.

Concerning dreams: do not hesitate. So few of us live our lives having found our passions. To have found it at such a young age is a wonderful thing. Ask yourself what your biggest regret would be if you were old and grey. Think positively, always, rid yourself of doubt and most importantly believe in yourself! If you don’t then your hard work will mean nothing along with your dreams.

In closing, don’t rush, don’t feel rushed, just go about everything in a calm way. Over exciting yourself will only pollute your head. Most importantly, don’t forget to have fun on your path(s) and do smile with both your face and heart. What would the point of chasing your dreams mean if you can’t even enjoy it? 🙂