Hi everyone,I feel so confused right now but I would like to know your thoughts on this matter.
I met a guy last year at the place I work at and I never really thought that we would hit it off as well as we did, but we did. We started talking on the phone a lot and he would always walk me to the car right after work. It seemed like he was so eager to always be around me and that he enjoyed my company. After a couple of months he moved in with me and it all became so real. He asked me to marry him after three months….ring and all. We had both been married before and we had talked about all of the things we wanted as well as the things we didn’t want in this relationship. To be honest I was scared and didn’t really want to get married but I went ahead and said yes. In time I grew to love this man but always felt something was missing. I felt like as time passed, the more I gave the more he didn’t. He just stopped trying to be that guy I had met months before. We would often argue bout little things but it seemed as if we held back what we were really feeling and would never express what we really wanted to. So when the arguing really became more frequent we would say things that we each didn’t know we had been thinking much less feeling. He started closing up more and doing way less to try and make things better. He was always secretive, always on the phone, and got more distant. I began to feel lonely, unattractive, unloved, and most of all disappointed with the relationship. I asked him to try to change and he said he wasn’t up for doing anything that wasn’t him. He said that if that’s what my other exs did then why wasn’t i with them. Anyway, we separated several times during that process and each time he moved back in after separation he was colder, more distant, and payed less attention to me. I was constantly asking if there was someone else and he always said he wasnt like that. i finally returned the ring and said that I didn’t feel it was right anymore.
And he quickly answered that he was going to move out…again…I pleaded that things could work out so he stayed but continued with his secrecy and sometimes he would just leave to run errand and not return for hours. Two weeks ago we had an argument and he texted if I had something to say. I did and minutes later he arrived at house and started taking his stuff….he moved out and said it was over. He never once called after that or anything. I called him and tried fixing things but he said when he was done he was done. He said he needed time and that we would talk but I’m still waiting. He also said he wasnt with anyone or looking. please help me understand what is going on…this is the man that said I was the one he wanted to marry. The one he truly loved. Why no communication? Is it that easy for most people to just walk away almost a year and a half after being together and just not care? What now? sorry so long. E