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  • September 12, 2013 at 6:44 am #42107
    Sairocks007
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    I am a student.I think i am very introverted and i don’t have much friends in my class.My problem is that i think a lot.Most of the time i am absent minded.I live in a spiritual family and my father used to watch a lot of spiritual videos and read spiritual books.I also got interested in this matter and i also started reading them expecting that it would make my life more happier.Many of the concepts told in those books like “maya or delusion” ,re-birth,ceiling on desires etc confused me..I started contemplating on it and got confused.Then i read many books on this topic and i got confused again and again.

    The concepts like ‘the ultimate aim of human life is to realize that God and we are one(salvation)’ made me think that my current actions are wrong fearing that they are delusions.Earlier i was very devoted to God and used to sing Bhajans and vedas.I was also doing well in my studies.But now I am very unhappy and confused.I could not concentrate on my studies.I found my life very dull and boring.Everyday i wake up with some unknown fear.It is said that human life is rare in the cycle of rebirths and it is only through h uman life that we can achieve the so called salvation.After hearing this i feel like i will be born again on this form in some other life forms like animals or insects.I feel very ashamed to tell someone nonsense like this.But i am suffering a lot because of such fears.

    At many times i forget that i am living and imagining that i am living in a world of delusions.Some times i went to bed crying.I feel so lonely.All my classmates are doing well where i am not able to concentrate well.One day i mind goes blank and couldn’t concentrate on anything.My life is becoming miserable now.I am not able to study well after this problem.I became very lazy also.Most of the time i am unhappy and i start spending a lot of time sleeping because it helped me to get rid of my problems with mind.With my constant anxiety my body feels weak and started having stomach problems like indigestion and acidity.I also feels to hate God.But still i pray to God to get rid of this problem but i cannot fully devout to my prayers.I have a habit of talking to myself.Sometimes i hate myself for my nature.My classmates are all cheerful.

    My parents have provided me with all the facilities and i feel very bad for not studying because there are millions who are living in poverty and who only dream of school.I am not happy.That is the main problem.Even handicapped people are happy! I have a good name in my school and i was doing well all these years.The life was really beautiful for me.But now i doubt everything and always i am afraid of something.I have discussed this matter with my parents as i always do.They have tried to explain me things.But my mind still ask me questions and put me into trouble.

    I feel very very alienated when i go to school.I feel like all my classmates are treating me like a stranger.My mind is always telling me things like re-birth.I am always confused about everything,the meaning of life,whether my actions are wrong in spiritual sense etc. Please help me.

    Regards,

    Sai hari krishnan

    September 13, 2013 at 7:46 pm #42209
    Belen
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    Hello Sai,

    It is strange that I came across this because I am going through a very similar thing. I wake up feeling like this everyday and I just feel like zoning out even more because it does not go away. It makes it very hard to study and continue with other life activities. Sometimes I feel I can control the absent mindedness better and I experience moments of clarity but when I realize this is happening, the fear and haze comes back. What has made me feel better was to make the conscious decision to think more positively and accept the feeling of absent mindedness. Accept that it is happening and be easier on yourself for experiencing it. I find that the more I try to find a solution for it the worse it gets. The moments of crisp clarity i had during this phase of haziness were when I took the time to appreciate the good things in my life. It is difficult and frustrating to keep thinking positive when you’re constantly reminded of this terrible feeling but be patient with yourself. If a bad thought comes, i would acknowledge it and breathe. Once the thought became less menacing i would replace it with a positive one. I know it feels like you are alone, but you are not.

    I hope you feel better soon.
    Belen

    September 20, 2013 at 6:38 am #42499
    Vivek Jha
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    Hey guys,
    It is a very common thing to blame ourselves or draw a bad picture of ourselves whenevr we don’t have answers.A lot of people do it but I think try this and you’ll feel better:

    1.Although there is all maya and everything is imaginary however real it may seem yet it has not got to do anything with our actions.We are bound by our actions in this world and we have to perform the proper actions with as much detatchment as possible.Actions are the only way to release us from the cycle of this life and birth.

    2.Detatchment does not mean you don’t do anything at all.It is a concept introduced so that we don’t fall prey to false attractions (lust and all that.)

    3.Never be heavy on yourself.Just accept whatever is beyond your control including yourself.We often hate ourselves a lot.Now tell me how can a person love others if he can’t love himself!And as far as confusion is concerned,what is there to be confused?You know how do we define knowledge?Well I found a very impressive definition and let me tell you:”
    If you know something,to hold on to it and if you don’t know something to allow that you don’t know it.”So if you don’t know something just acknowledge it and you’ll soon know b proper application of mind.

    4.Even if you feel depressed,don’t worry it’s just a process and it’ll pass soon..And as far as loneliness is concerned,try meeting with people and the keyword is just don’t be harsh on yourself.

    Enjoy this human life which has been awarded to you by virtue of your good actions of the past.It’s just too precious to spend in worry!!!!!!

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