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    Mazza
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    Hey Chelsea, sorry you are going through this right now, it must be very hard. I know it sounds mean but it really isn’t. Some people with addictions usually have a hard time accepting responsibility , blaming everyone but themselves. They feel sorry for themselves and think everyone is against them for saying something, instead of realising how they make everyone else feel . He’s putting the guilt on you for saying something to him, by crying and saying everyone abandons him. You need to sit down and have a serious chat with him and tell him you will support him in trying to get him off the medication, make an appointment with the doctors and go with him. Tell him you will be there for him so long as he’s also there for you. It can’t just go one way. Tell him how you feel, that you feel neglected and unwanted and that it is in fact HE that is abandoning YOU and that if he loves you enough he would want you to be so happy in life, and he should be happy to have someone supportive. Give him this chance to change first. And if he won’t, well i’m sorry but i really think leaving would be the best thing. Get a list of things you would like to do together with him, whether it be a nice walk, going to the cinema, doing the shopping, he needs to get out and about. Ask him can he at least find some special time with you, and cut the video game playing down to 3 nights a week spacing it in between or if he has to play everyday, maybe a couple of hours and spend the rest with you? cos you’re supposed to take breaks from playing games, its bad for your eyes, and causes headaches and tiredness. I really hope you find a solution Chelsea, but i really think if you have exhausted all measures to try and help him ,there is no point in you wasting your life too, just because he won’t save his. xx

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    Jade
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    Addiction is one of those things where the most loving decisions we can make is to NOT give in to what the addicted person asks of us. They are unwell and need care, not for the people around them to enable their unhealthy lifestyle. If I was in your shoes, I would be firm but gentle and let him know that you will always love and care for him, but you have needs that are not being met and you can’t be together if you’re not happy. You have every right to pursue your happiness!

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