Hi Laven

I’m sorry to hear that your neighbour that you were dating recently ghosted you. How long were you dating for? I’m very sorry to hear that you’ve had other people treat you like this too.

This guy has no class, not even bothering to break up with you. I’m sorry he lied to you about marriage. It’s heartbreaking stuff but honestly, says more than him than it does about you. He is a scumbag that uses people. It is honestly better to learn this now, than being married before finding it out.

Dating is really difficult and there are lessons to learn here, protecting your heart is important. You didn’t protect yourself. There are basic rules that people follow to protect themselves in the event of a break up. Don’t date people in the workplace or neighbours.

Some people, not all, from different cultures truly only consider people from their own culture as long term partners. Also, different cultures have different meanings around marriage. Some have informal marriages which are essentially spiritual unions that are essentially a blessing which gives you permission from God to have sex without it being a sin.

Everyone has failed relationships, before they have successful ones. I hope that in the future you will be more guarded with your emotions and protect yourself. You do deserve protecting and if you don’t do it, no one else will do it for you.

Wishing you all the best! ❤️🙏