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  • #109018
    Anonymous
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    Dear Hopeful33:

    It is a great loss then, a loss of something special you had with him; something special he had with you. No matter how much understanding you can gain of what happened, it doesn’t change the fact that you suffered a loss and there is sadness, deep sadness and grief that you are experiencing, understandably.

    anita

    #109130
    Hopeful33
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    True.
    It’s funny – my therapist yesterday mentioned Princess Diana and Prince Charles, and it got me thinking – even they had massive doubts before their wedding and they went through with it. Prince Charles was in love with someone else and didn’t even love Diana. I know they had the weight of an entire nation on their shoulders, but still, it goes to show people really can try to make themselves believe whatever they need to believe at that moment in time in order to go through with something.

    Thinking of this case scenario helped me somewhat. Proved to me it’s not as outlandish an idea as I make it out to be. It seems like much like Prince Charles, my ex ‘did the right thing’ by his family and pursued the option they had laid out for him.

    We all know what happened to Prince Charles and Diana in the end. Not that I’m suggesting that my ex’s marriage will definitely fail, but I cannot see how it will ever be a happy one given how it all started. I guess the only reason I’m saying this is that I’ve made the mistake over the last years of thinking of him as having moved on and being deliriously happy with his new bride. I now think this is the lesser likely scenario of the two.

    #109144
    Anonymous
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    Dear Hopeful33:

    Of all your posts, this last one is the most sensible. In this one your thinking is most correct (the Correct- Thinking-Bell in my brain rang loud and clear)!

    anita

    #109146
    Hopeful33
    Participant

    Thanks again, Anita. I feel like I’ve made a lot of progress over this last week or so, and your replies have very much helped me to snap out of my faulty way of thinking. It’s a way of thinking that I’ve had for a lifetime, so it’s taking a lot of effort to correct it, but now that I’m aware of it and how I can change it, I can see progress is being made.

    #109148
    Anonymous
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    You are welcome, Hopeful33. Anytime. And I am glad to witness your progress- it makes my day.
    anita

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