Hi kdizzle,

I think that an important question to ask yourself is why do you value love? More specifically the romantic type of love relationship? Once you have truly answered that question for yourself you will begin to either A) further emphasize what you already know about love, or B) perhaps discover something much deeper than you were expecting about yourself.

In regards to what you said about wondering if someone will ever want to be in a relationship with you, well, those are negative thoughts that sometimes we create in our mind based on either consistent experiences or assumptions that may not be true. During that time we generally think something is wrong with us and concluding that we are not valued by another person. However, it may not be case. Perhaps that person that left you/ignored you/rejected you, or whatever [insert some other type of reason to end communication], is not fully ready to commit, which I would extremely emphasize, it’s not you, it’s them! Or perhaps there is an area that we need to explore more about ourselves and what it means to be in a relationship with someone

I think that you have strong idea of you are right now, have surrounded yourself with activities that you value, and seem to have a good sense of self. I honestly think that if you continue to focus on yourself the right people will come into your life that may surprise you.

I hope that helps somehow and would love to hear your thoughts about what you think love is for you!

– Lexie

Hello,

You sounds like a wonderful gal and I am sure you will eventually fine the one. I have seen time and again in my life that when the time is right, it’s meant to be, things work out. You arent a repellant to men. Some relationships didn’t work out but you know what, you don’t need 10 men, 10 relationships, you need one right one for you. Those guys weren’t meant for you. I believe something better is planned for you, that’s why these aren’t working out. Be patient and keep an open heart – you are 23 only, some people find their soulmates much later even – that’s really what counts – one right one and the good memories we make with the one that don’t work out. It will be alright, you will find an amazing man at the right time.

Regards
Nina

Hi there kdizzle,
If I can provide some science behind the whole trouble with relationships and young people is due to the fact even though you can drive at 16, vote at 18 and legally drink at 21, young adults are still developing their minds to their environment and surroundings. It is believed that the human brain (specifically the prefrontal cortex) does not fully mature until age 25/26. Before that young adults are figuring out who they are and where they fit in the world. Of course for some adults maturity takes a little longer, but on average that is the case. Throw in a complicated emotion and action of unconditional love and you have recipe for confusion and awkwardness. Just continue focusing on your job, activities/hobbies and growing yourself from within and eventually you will attract a guy who has been working on himself and the two of you will have a loving relationship where the two of you grow together with each of you bringing your talents and abilities to the relationship.
Thank You and Take Care
-AP85