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17 year old girl with a big dream, but an unsupportive family.

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    Jade
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    First off, I want to tell you that even though I might be a complete stranger I am SO PROUD OF YOU! It takes immense confidence and courage to pursue a dream when you don’t have a proper circle of supporters around you, and you’ve taken major actions to make your dream a reality.

    Do you have any friends who are proud of your accomplishments? Can you get in touch with fellow competitors and get advice from them? A mentor in the cycling field would be an awesome asset!

    And I know it’s hard to take when it’s the people you love who are trying to bring you down, but sometimes you just have to go it alone. Failure doesn’t mean you should stop and quit, it means you learn and grow and move forward!

    I wish I had done what you are doing right now when I was 17, but I knew my parents wouldn’t be supportive so I did what would please them. You’re on the right path!

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    James
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    Don’t let your parents derail your dream – it is your dream. Here is a true story.

    My wife watched the 1984 Olympics with her father and decided that she wanted to go to the Olympics when she was older; she was 14 at the time. They looked at all the sports that were in the Olympics and decided on flatwater kayaking because it was not that well known in the US and she could train on her own, without a team. She ultimately won multiple national championships, represented the US at the 1987 Jr. World Championships in Yugoslavia, and was invited to train at the Olympic training center in Chula Vista, CA with the intent of training and qualifying for the Barcelona Olympic Games in 1992. However, this all occurred at the time she was graduating HS and supposed to be going to college. While her father helped set her on her path, her parents ultimately “dropped the hammer” and said she had to go to college and not go west to the Olympic training center and they would not assist in funding any of her training at the Olympic center. She listened to them
.to this day it is, by far, her biggest regret in life, she can’t even tell the story without crying because she knows deep down she could have marched in the opening ceremonies representing the US, but gave up on HER dream. She could have still gone to college after the games and everyone would have been happy.

    Pursue your dream, it is YOUR dream – but have a fall back plan – there are plenty of folks who realize there athletic dreams and then do big things afterwards – for example, Eric Heiden won 5 gold medals, rode in the Tour de France and then became an orthopedic surgeon and if you fall short in your dream you can still do big things in other arenas.

    • This reply was modified 11 years, 8 months ago by James.
    #41081
    KrishnaDevotee
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    Hi, I’m 17 too and I’ve got a very unsupportive family as well, they have been abusive throughout my childhood. Its your life at the end of the day so don’t let anyone take away your opportunity. If people oppose you, you can still find ways to achieve what you want.

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