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Zoey McandlesParticipant
Hi Alpal,
That is so true, and I definitely want to become more comfortable and just be happy with myself. I would absolutely love to hear more information about this! That would be so kind of you! I just feel constantly anxious and antsy, and I want to find that inner peace that I used to have. And what a great thing to be obsessed with, I hope I do the same! 🙂
And you’re probably completely right about my being in love, I’m just thrown off because I’m usually not this way with guys, and for some reason I can’t stop thinking about this one. It does’t help that we have the same friend group either. I just wish the weepy, emotional part of all of this would speed up and end already 😉Zoey McandlesParticipantHi Alapal,
Thank you so much for your reply, everyone’s kind words really help to hear. Something you said really resonated with me, I think that I’m unsure of the person I am when I’m alone, and if someone asks me out, I shouldn’t feel like that’s weird or anything, and lately I have been. I really need to boost my self confidence, I’m not quite sure how to do that though. I think the hardest part about this whole thing for me is that I still really want him and am a little in love with him, and I need to shift my attention to creating a healthy relationship with myself. Why is that so hard to do?!? I want to be happy though, and I don’t want him to take the joy that I used to have before this whole ordeal, and with the help of positive and helpful words like yours, I’m determined to make that happen!
Thank you so much, you helped more that you know.
Much Love!
-ZoeyZoey McandlesParticipantHi Kelsi,
Your story and kind words mean so much to me. I’m so sorry to hear that you went through an experience similar to mine, matters of the heart hurt more than it would seem. I absolutely love that quote, “Never chase love, affection or attention. If it isn’t given freely by another person, it isn’t worth having”. That I think for me was the hardest thing to realize about this whole situation, because there was a part of me hoping that if I kept trying to reach out, then there would be an equal response. Not talking to him is still hard, but I feel that if I do, it will make it just that much harder for me to move on. Some days I still panic and worry about never finding someone that I feel the same way as I did with this guy, but just like you said, one day we’ll find the right man! And I definitely think you are right in saying that I need to spend some time with myself, and remembering how to be me without this person, I genuinely want to find that place again, even if I’m not quite sure how to do that yet.
I want you to know that you are also a beautiful, intelligent woman who also deserves someone who will love and respect her the way she deserves. Thank you so much for your response! It helps to know that I’m not alone in this matter.
Lots of love!
-ZoeyZoey McandlesParticipantHope, you just said everything I needed to hear, thank you so much! I will definitely try to focus on mantras throughout my day from now on, and I will definitely check out that book! I am still getting that negative gut wrenching “ohmygodwhatdididowrongwhydoesn’thewantme” feeling quite often, but I am going to stay positive!
Thank you so much for your reply!lots of love,
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