Hi Coruja,

Reading your story here, I feel moved and can identify with so many of the feelings you are expressing.

I think what I most want to say to you from all of this is that relationships are a tricky thing, and there is such a wealth of learning that takes place when we enter into one, and live within one.
What you are explaining here is such a common scenario for so many of us, finding our way into healthy relationships by stumbling all the way!

I feel like now for you is a time to be stronger than ever before, but this time for yourself. This relationship has somewhat taken a backseat to allow you for the first time some while, to pay attention to you and what YOU need.

It sounds like you’ve spent a lot of time “waiting” for someone else, or “giving up things” for someone else.
Where you feel you’ve been so giving to someone else, you have not given to YOU.
Now, you are face to face with the “you” that wants your love, your attention, it wants that job back that it had to give up, it wants that independence it gave up, it wants those delightful interests and hobbies that made you shine before back!

When these things have been given to you, BY you, you will be so much more ready to interact within a relationship (with whichever person that may be) from an empowered and healthy place, and be treated as the princess you are.
Coming from such a place in a relationship (a place of self-love) sees you no longer having to wait for anyone else or “sacrificing” to your own detrement.

It may feel like jumping off a cliff to really focus on yourself and let go of what is happening around you with everyone else, but once you learn about this, you won’t need to learn it quite the same way again.

Much Love,

Bliss xx