Thank you for the reminder Anita, I completely agree with you there. I also like the suggestions those are really that simple to do.

My boyfriend grew up in a hostile home of name calling, and yelling and I know this has for sure affected the way he gets when he is hurt, he gets dramatic and angry. I grew up in a household of withdrawing, and anger.. so thus I withdraw.

I’m going to think on this and get back to you.

Sorry that was confusing, a distant friend did that with him. And she didn’t tell me, nor did she. He finally told me what happened last week. Because it was eating him alive and he didn’t want me to hear it from anyone else.

But he was the one that broke up with me.

Yeah, he broke up with me though!

But I like these outlooks, I’m just really mad because, he was trying to contact me and inviting me wherever he was and he went out and did that. Even after he told me how much he needed me and missed me. There is a lot of elements that make me kind of mad but that’s one of them that’s the most upsetting.

My reddit username is iloveplur23 🙂

I love your refreshing out look on this Mark. I do agree with you there, we were broken up and he chose to do that. I’m not mad about that, I am mad because I specifically asked him when we got back together if anything had perspired and he said no. That’s just awful to me. I can tell you that I 100% did not do anything like that, I hung out with my friends and loved ones because I needed that type of support.

Is there a way I can personally DM you? I really like your view points and have more to say. But want to have a private conversation.

Marie, I enjoy this perspective of looking inward when being triggered but I get lost with it bit. Because it is quite obvious I guess why I normally get jealous of these girls, it is because they have a lot of the strengths that I personally am weak in. People in my life also seem to flock to them more, hang out with them more, and I think this just comes from a place where I don’t feel good enough socially. Like I don’t feel fun around them or open, in fact they make me hermit more than I normally am. I constantly struggle to be myself in social situations, because when I am around my good friends and feel good that is when I feel myself. Now I am just starting to think out loud..

But what I have also noticed is when someone is just doing their own thing and wishing other people well and minding their own business… they tend to attract others to their light too. Maybe that beautiful, carefree, messy, empathetic friend rubs you the wrong way, because she’s triggering a deep longing or desire in yourself you’re afraid to face?

This is what I try to do whenever I get a jealous or envious thought I try to wish them well in my mind. I try to pray for them. Again I think these types of people in my life are triggering a deep longing within myself I’m really just not sure what it is and it is really confusing when I think about it too long.