Don’t for a moment believe that everyone has it figured out and control of their life but you. Very few people do. Most people just haven’t given it that much thought yet. When they do, later in life, they often get a bit of a shock. Not that this should matter to you. As long as you measure yourself against others you will never be happy. Your happiness is not determined by how well you are doing or whether you have the things that society says you should have.

It is said that the guys who get along best with women are the guys who can get along without them. It’s so true on so many levels. And I think it applies to more than just relationships. I suspect you can’t get the things you want from life until you learn to live happily without them.

Stop being so hard on yourself. Stop berating yourself for the things you don’t have, and start congratulating yourself for your good qualities and the good things you have done. Anyone who matters isn’t judging you based on your career, or whether you are married or have kids. What matters is your smile, your humour, your warmth, your empathy. I can sense from your few words that you have no lack of those. Once you truly learn to believe in yourself, everything will start to fall into place.