David–I’m so sorry to hear about your situation. I must admit, I was that girl recently. It’s really tough to admit that you’re not in a good place to continue the relationship, especially one with an immense connection. But it’s so important to let people go through their own journey to get to a place where they are capable of receiving love.
I agree with Anita. There’s no harm in checking in with her intermittently as a friend. Someone did that for me and it helped me realize how supportive and trustworthy he was. You should be sure to move forward with your life though. I wish you the best of luck!