Dear Anita,

Thank you for your reply.    Sorry but I can’t write it all out as its very likely that my parents might happen across this and recognise my writing.    I would like to, but I don’t want to be that open with them.

By saying things were blurry, I mean my recollection of things isn’t as sharp right now and what’s bothering me most at the moment is someone who has been leaning on me for support and offloading and venting, despite me saying they needed to go to someone else which has left me feeling cross and used because they actually have more support than I have.    I was just starting to think positively and as it’s as if they trampled all over that by making me feel sorry for them and then once they had my attention blurting out all sorts of negative thoughts about others and society.   I hope I don’t do that.

I realise I too now am blurting this out, but I felt exhausted by them.     I don’t know what to do to shift the anger I feel.

Thank you for listening.

Best wishes,

Rebecca

Dear Tommy,

Thank you for writing about karma, however, I am not understanding some things.    When you say harm returns to others do you mean harm returns from me?  Also, how is one meant to manage one’s emotions then?

Sorry if these seem silly questions.    Is there a book or video you can recommend?

With thanks and best wishes,

Rebecca

[quote quote=427328]Yes, living in social groups, gives opportunity for others to have intentions or good or harm. But, their intentions are not your intentions. It is not you sowing nor reaping. It is theirs. When a person causes you injury, your anger and thirst for revenge becomes peaked. They sow harm and harm returns to them. That is living this life. Buddha said that life is dukkah (suffering). Some say that the life we live in now is because of our previous Karma. Whether it is or not, I do not know. Doubt, compassion and wisdom are all about walking the eightfold path outlined by the Buddha. Although they do not use words like doubt. I use doubt as not believing, not putting the proper effort in, not having faith, not able to see the truth. Compassion and wisdom, being able to see the truth of a situation and being willing to help as one can. Thinking of one’s life as a freshly fallen snow. Then someone walks thru our life and leaves a trail. We want our life to be back to that first fresh snow fall. But, we can not. The more we push snow into the foot prints then more we mess up the fresh snow. If we try to avoid looking at it then we hide the truth from ourselves. But, if we accept the foot prints and allow it to be then the next snow fall will brighten up the snow again. Moving past it we will see fresh snow again. If we hold onto the hurt caused by others then the more we hurt ourselves. So finding forgiveness provides a release from holding onto this hurt. It does not mean to forget. It does not mean to be as before. It means it will not have a hold on you. I do not have access to give you which will free you from this hurt and pain. No one can just give one instructions to free oneself from hurt. Only you can. I wish you well. Note: Yes, the analogy falls apart. Just like in life, when we go down to smaller and smaller details, the laws that govern our world do not quite apply.[/quote]

Dear Roberta,

Thank you for your reply to my post, and for kindly explaining more about karma – I appreciate it.

Best wishes

Rebecca

Dear Tommy,

Thank you for your reply to my posts.

You mentioned “you sow is what you reap. Plant an apple tree then an apple tree will grow. It can not become an orange tree.”

This idea is also in the New Testament.  But to me it seems clear that because we generally live in social groups, others may sow into a person’s life.    This seems unfair and for me is where the analogy breaks down.
<p style=”text-align: left;”>However, I am very interested in what  you’ve shared about processing emotions and letting go of negative emotions.</p>
Please can you explain more about what you mean by removing ‘doubts’?  Thank you for any help you are able to give.

Rebecca

Dear Anita,

Thank you for the reply you wrote to my post and the clarity it’s brought – I really appreciate it.

Rebecca
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