Hi Kate,

Your story sounds so much like mine, i was abandoned too by my husband after 8 yrs of marriage in a country where i had no family, we are still in the process of getting divorced , initially i lived in fear and pain and misery …worried about living alone etc .eventually i decided to face my fears , i told myself “well how hard can it be , i wont die , will i?? ” and thats when things changed for me .In the past year i have done so many things unthinkable, gone back to school, made good loving friends who support me more than family, rediscovered my old self , thats was killed in the marriage trying to please this person .

its not easy to pick up the pieces after somebody rejects you , but you have to tell yourself everyday “I am a beautiful person and i deserve love and respect and if this is not the guy then someone else will come my way “.

I am still single but i know i wont remain here forever ,one day true love will find me .The things that helped me most in coming out of my grief and pain are :”eckahart Tolle’s Power of now, Susan anderson’s book :from abandonment to healing and of course a daily dose of blog from Tiny buddha “.

this is my frist post on tiny buddha , i have finally decided to share my experience and insight here , may help others in similar situations .

only thing i will say is “never say die ” and dont give up on yourself , if you dont fight for yourself, nobody else will .

stay strong sister.

with love and warmth.
whitelily.