Oh my goodness Katie!  I literally am at work talking to the ladies I work with going through this exact same thing.  I just came to sit down and read some Tiny Buddha to hopefully take my mind off things and get it to stop going in a million different directions.  Does he like me? Has he lost interest?  Did I do or say something wrong?  I want some attention! ha! It seems when feelings start getting involved and we risk getting hurt is when this stuff starts to come up.

I’m not good not knowing when the next time I’m going to see him is.  I feel like if I know when I’m going to see him again, then I feel better not communicating everyday (he is also not much of a texter).  It feels like a long time has past since we’ve last talked, but really, we saw eachother on the weekend and then didn’t talk much yesterday.  He has let me know that he has a busy week this week, so I just have to trust (and believe him) when he says that he likes me! And just stay calm.  Because I tend to sabotage relationships by starting to put my happiness in their hands.  I don’t think it’s so much about having ‘the talk’ and then this is what ruins it, I think we tend to put too much pressure on it.

I see a therapist myself as I have attachment and bonding issues as well as some abandon issues that I’m working through.  I tell myself that I’m worth it and I’m good enough and that I deserve love!

It is nice to know that I’m not the only one that does this however, and you re not alone Katie!  If he’s worth it, he will put the effort in and you will feel the love.  Just don’t let the stories you make up in your head become reality, because it’s probably is not even close to the truth.  Trust your instincts and your gut and know that everything will be ok!

Also, what books have you read and did they help at all?  Always looking for something to make me understand things about myself!