Lynda,

Just take your time to feel the worst or still had a feelings for that guy, until you had to go to the point that you should drop it off. There’s no harm in giving love to others, until you find yourselves soffocated then you can realize that it is fair enough, you, your feelings toward that boy. Sorry.. I just called hm “boy” just a real kind of a man can clearly see a good woman-

I wish you could both talk gently and you without nagging.. I believe every man has a heart, I mean a good part of them which is gentle. And that could be your way to gain his attention for the last time, the time that you’re strong enough to let go of your emotions and let go of him. I know even him, he has the advantage to help you out of the mess by his real words if he can say it to you..I am pretty sure it can be immeasurable freedom for you to go on without him.

Not easy though but let him be free so as you could and see the beauty of past and love which is really ment for you.

Hi Lynda,

Good to know by taking time and effort to be a part of this awesome page-tinybuddha. I wish I can help through out of this mess but no, only your own can (don’t get me wrong). I have had with the same experience, actually really a same figure of experience. You are already 27 yrs of age, am I correct? Okay, it ended up as I, was always pretty annoyed a guy by sending him messages that I, still feel the same and which made myself feel to him more intense in every time I communicate him (that him is my ex guy). And which is so bad in terms of my own self. To the point that I have to cry out loud just to release the pain of being rejected and not the choice. I wanted to bring myself that experience as a lesson and should not hurt myself again. Because it’s one day that I just woke up and talked to myself that I should face and accept the fact, I have my own life to pursue with and bring life with. What the past may be is always past and I can’t handle, looking myself terrible -chasing for a man who could not able to see the real me and could not able to give a chance. I just woke up and I wanted to be free, I don’t want to feel helpless anymore. I wanted to, instead, chase opportunities which will lead me to grow and be a more loving girl. Give a chance to others to give you more and open real love or to receive love that you did not able to recognize while chasing that guy. Just pray and pray to seek answers and heal your heart, lay over your frustrations unto Him and pray, be over from that guy. We cannot please anyone nor the one who’s our Creator, who’s has a hearts of resistance. I wish you good.

Yawlie

Hi Matt,

Thanks. welia2286@gmail.com is my email ad. It is just wanted to ask you a personal info thinking that it could be related. However, it is been already a year that I met an expat guy within work. Based on reality, knowing that I am from an Asian country which makes an English man doubtful even to start a friendship, but we eventually made it into a relationship and broke up. Knowingly that I am from an average family which leaves to just study then work for family. It leads to think that he did not pursue us. After he left for an accomplishments of projects where we met, for the reason where I am not worthy/ matched the way he live as a Bachelor. And by this time, all I know that he’s still chasing for a girl while me did the same thing unto him. I wanted to give a chance to myself to grow and be more responsible enough and able to protect myself from others. But I cannot resist his memories and still lingering on it. I hope it might be understandable to you .

Welia

Hi Kevin,

Just keep on moving forward though and keep on pushing to become you again. It may not be easy being a broken and into pieces but there would such time that you can find yourself, really wake up someday that you are not dreaming of her or ever recall feelings for her. I might imagine like me; you and her someday you might meet in some place which she can see you happy -being you and is regretful for what she has done to you. Still you are young you can have a perfect girl who will be your right mirror.

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