Dear Anyone,
I too thought I could maintain a physical relationship with a married man. He made me feel pretty and sexy and he became my drug of choice. It didn’t work.
I found out recently that he views me as the slut and he only has real relationships with “good” girls.
I took a trip to MX last year and when I came home my borrowed man told me his wife had thrown him out. She never found out about his cheating (thank goodness) but she threw him out because he is a bully.
I did not pressure him into a real relationship with me, in fact I backed off so he could have time to grieve his loss. While I was doing the right thing and letting him get his bearings another woman stepped in. This man has a weakness for very young women (young enough to be his daughter or granddaughter) and he moved in with a coworker of his immediately. He did not have the nerve to tell me, he let me find out from another. He continued to come around looking for sex but once I found out he was living with another I realized it hurt. It wasn’t supposed to hurt because I wasn’t supposed to be emotionally involved.
Guess what? It has been a year and I find myself stuck. I can’t seem to move past his treatment of me. He continues to badger me and wants to be buddies. I finally told him that he must leave me alone or I will spill the beans. He is mixing his job and his sex life and those two don’t mix well.
The bottom line is “Do no harm” and I harmed myself by getting physically involved with this man. I was able to tell myself during the affair that I was not involved and he could not hurt me. Boy, was I wrong!! I got my comeuppance and I realize I deserve it. Don’t sell yourself short, you deserve a real partner not leftovers.