Hi Eliana,

This was a very nice advice from you. It really cleared a lot of things for me. It surely is very helpful.

But what do you have to say about the fact that the guy’s behavior is very much dependent on his needs. If he has some selfish motive from me he will keep in touch otherwise he will not. I have observed this behavior a couple of times. More than that, he has lied to me a few times when he was calling the other woman friend we have in common to his house and did not inform me when I was physically present at his house.

I came to know about that when I left and the woman told me that while talking to me a few moments later.

Thanks Anita for the help. I hope this turns out well and I do not get hurt again.

So, there was another event a few days back. It was an important day for me, I had a party on completion of my MBA and I had invited this person. This person did not show up and when my other friends asked him if he is coming he was showing as if he was not invited by me. Although, I had invited him 2 times. It was an important day for me and as a friend he should have showed up. I got super angry and told him how insensitive and a disgusting person he was.

Do you think I should talk to him once?

Thanks Mark and Anita,

Mark, I totally agree with your point on friendships and how to recognize friends. I get too much engrossed in friendships and usually trust the wrong person. If a person does something nice for me a few times I start thinking he is a very loving and caring person and I trust them blindly.

Anita, your post was a eye opener for me. I really think that you are right about he trying to feel superior to others. I have seen pride in my friend at certain occasions. One such example was when he tried to trap a girl knowing that the girl had a boyfriend. He used to think that he can win over any girl and make them leave their boyfriend for him. More disturbing was the fact that he himself had a relationship and never used to accept the relationship in public in front of friends. Regarding the bad words, when I get angry I tend to say anything and in that time I have said things like he is not a good friend etc.