Hello marco,

I do not think there is any option on this site for private messaging.

But on the similar lines, I will recommend that whatsoever may be the situation I will suggest you to apply the 3 choice formula along with other things mentioned in post#184261.

 

Regards
~VJ

Hello Eliana,

Thanks for the blessings!

I just wanted to know if you have been able to make advances towards the betterment of your situation.

Or is it just the day/event in the title of the posts that have changed but the original situation still remains the same?

(Used only for reference)

Alone, in bad health, and depressed on Christmas eve

Sad, rejected and lonely on my birthday

The positive action that I am referring to is not about “Be positive, everything will be ok”. It is very difficult to think positively in difficult times. It is about taking some kind of positive action. Is there any positive action that you have taken between all the time from the end of first post and at the start of the second post? For example, in your very first post it mentions as “I just want to go to hospice”. So is there something that you can act upon it? Can you make a call to them and inquire? Or do you need me to look that up around your area? Or do you just need a push of motivation to get up and doing what is required? Instead of non-action due to ill-health make your health condition itself as a source for that push….for that action. This is just an example. You may be knowing what is the next positive action that you can take.  No amount of any conversations on this site is going to help permanently (although momentarily) without taking the required surrendered action. Moments are passing and days are passing and you do not want to be in the same situation on the next festival or event of the year. I hope you are getting the point. Don’t stay “stuck” in the mud for too long.

Also, did you get a chance to go through the write-up on Acceptance & Surrender. If not I have re-posted it here as No. 1.

Use it to sail through your situation, while taking some kind of surrendered action.

I do remember that you were not able to open at the yoga/pranayama links, but I did not resend them as you mentioned you have back problems.

How about something that the Divine has built in within us? There are points in our body that corresponds to every organ of the body and stimulating those points (by pressing with the finger(s)) will activate those organs. These are Acupressure Points. You simply need to press those points to activate your digestive organs. You may have already heard about it but never got a chance to look into it. Please take a look at No. 3.

The below 3 points are intentionally in sequence so go through them in that sequence.

1)

Acceptance and Surrender (Write-up)
Source: http://www.commonground.ca/OLD/iss//0406155/eckhart_tolle.shtml

2) 

         2.1] How to consciously deal with illness – Eckhart Tolle

(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VG_8cFtg-yg)

 

         2.2] Eckhart Tolle on Coping with Cancer

(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qMmi92Ge024)

 

3) 

9 Best Acupressure Points to Treat Digestive Problems:

9 Best Acupressure Points to Treat Digestive Problems

(Please note: in the above link, the images for 2 of the pressure points are missing. I looked up their names by doing an Image search over the web and they are available for you to see the location of the points.)

 

Warm regards,

~VJ

 

• This reply was modified 6 years, 11 months ago by VJ.

Dear Sebastiaan,

Yes you have posted in the right thread (Share your Truth) since in reality there shouldn’t be any category for anything because everyone is always ‘Sharing their own Truth’.

I am not someone from the medical arena but I do know about this issue based on readings and hearing about it from people. So would respond to you based on the same.

Erection problems are usually termed as Impotence or Erectile Dysfunction (ED).
When men become sexually aroused, hormones, muscles, nerves, and blood vessels all work with one another to create an erection. Nerve signals are sent from the brain to the penis. This, in turn, allows blood to flow to the tissue in the penis. Once the blood fills the penis and an erection is achieved, the erection is then maintained.
When someone suffers from ED, the blood that should flow into the penis and causes it to become erect, does not flow with the amount it should flow. This amount of blood flow is interrupted by either a physical or psychological condition or a combination of the two…more on these below.

Physical reasons–
Physical health conditions like diabetes, heart issues or taking certain types of medications do affect in ways further causing ED.
But after you mentioning your age I do not consider this to be the case with you. You will need to find out if you do have any.

Psychological reasons–
This problem to the area between the legs (reproductive organ) is usually due to a problem between the ears (brain, mind)
Issues in the head are due to anxiety, insecurity, nervousness, etc.

It could be either General anxiety that you have in your day to day life with other daily activities OR it could be even Performance anxiety (anxiety either to perform the best or that I am not performing the best or that she should feel a particular way about my performance).

“I already stopped fapping and watching porn “
“i was kinda addicted, maybe once or twice a day”
I have read medical practitioners in this area of expertise suggest that the male hormones keep on generating the semen (spermatic fluid) within the testicles. So if you suppress the urge for its outflow then it is going to find its own outlet through nocturnal emissions or wet dreams (a wet dream is when ejaculation occurs while you’re asleep). Or even when you are simply sitting you can sense a small amount of the fluid coming out.
Hence doctors suggest you to find its outlet through masturbation but only when you are sexually excited or when you feel the sexual tension caused due to this constant generation of the spermatic fluid. It doesn’t sound to be harmful if it is not made into a habit.

“and i’m doubting to buy viagra”
If you do this then do it with the awareness of its effects along with its side-effects.
I would recommend some natural foods, nuts and fruits that assist in this matter. Look up on the web for natural remedies on this.

Also it requires changes in lifestyle like –
-stopping tobacco use
-drinking less alcohol
-getting plenty of rest
-eating a healthy diet
-exercising regularly
-reducing stress and anxiety

If ED is caused by a lack of blood flow then circulatory health becomes key in prevention. A common way to improve blood flow is through exercise.
Some cardio-based exercises include: running, biking, swimming, and aerobics or even brisk walking.

Erectile Dysfunction is affected by the mind which in turn affects the mind and thus worsens the problem due to this cyclic loop.
So it is not just physical health that you need to focus on, but mental health too.
Look out for simple relaxation techniques. Also, there are lots of techniques on the web to have proper blood circulation in the brain and to the entire body. You also need to make yourself mentally strong in other usual activities of the day.

Occasional ED isn’t uncommon.
If doing the mind relaxation exercises, and the techniques to increases the blood circulation, and the changes in your lifestyle don’t reduce your symptoms and if you develop erection problems that get worse over time, then it is definitely time to contact your doctor. Yes you mentioned you do not want to go to the doctor, but this is again anxiety. An experienced doctor specialized for this condition is there to help you in this matter. Take it that way. He will then find the root cause of your underlying condition – be it physical or psychological.

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Whatever it may be, don’t allow yourself to think that you have a major problem, and that you need to perform well the next time you meet and also end up doing too much of searching on the web.
Going with the flow of the moment is the best thing to do. Don’t keep yourself waiting to meet her, neither suppress your desires with her (of course with her consent).

Don’t try to make it so “hard” to understand all of the above.

This is all more usage of the mind. Just live spontaneously and allow yourself to enjoy those moments.

 

With some physical activity and learning to relaxing yourself will help you get rid of all this.

Best wishes,
~VJ

Hi marco,

How have you been doing.

You asked me for my thoughts and I have provided you my inputs (two posts above).

What is your opinion on that? Also, if you have any other option than the 3 above then please let me also know and if that sounds good to me that can be added to the 3 options suggested by spiritual master Eckhart Tolle in dealing with any difficult situation.

 

It would be nice to hear from you that in some way or the other you have been able to, at least, strive towards the betterment of your situation.

 

Warm Regards,

VJ

 

 

Hello FullMoon,

You can take a look at the below link where I, along with the other members of this site, have submitted a few techniques.

Relaxation & Meditation Techniques

 

Also the one posted by Peter is good.

 

All the steps in the above link are easy to understand and self-explanatory.

But if you still face any issues about anything please feel free to post

 

Warm Regards,

VJ

 

 

• This reply was modified 6 years, 11 months ago by VJ.

Dear Ben,

It’s good that you have been following the teachings of master Eckhart Tolle. Things are going to be simple for you to follow.

Take a break for yourself from all of the spiritual healing techniques and self-help books.
I’ve done and gone through them so you need not do the homework. What I am going to suggest you are also some of the spiritual healing techniques but only the ones that are necessary for you and something that will work.

Yes, understanding the concepts theoretically is far much different from experiencing it experientially but is possible through doing them practically. I am going to suggest you something from Eckhart’s teachings of “The Power of Now” and “A new earth: Awakening to your life purpose”. But these are going to be practical exercises and will be required to be done regularly and diligently. You need not have to do anything else for the overactive mind.

The root cause of all pain and suffering caused is due to an overactive mind. I will go ahead even further and call it a hyper active mind.

“…over analytical and active mind, overwhelming of thinking and confusion about everything…”
All of these that you are experiencing are nothing but “hyper mind activity” and not really happening in reality, and I’m sure you are already aware of this.

When your mind won’t let you alone, feel the inner energy of your entire body.

All you have to do is get out of your head and bring your attention back to the awareness of your inner body.

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Feel Your Inner Body:

If you are not familiar with “inner body” awareness, close your eyes for a moment and find out if there is life inside your hands. Don’t ask your mind…go to the hands directly. By this it means to become aware of the subtle feeling of aliveness inside them. Raise your hand and with your eyes closed try to find where your lifted hand is. It is there. You just have to go there with your attention to notice it with your eyes closed. You may get a slight tingling sensation at first, then a feeling of energy or aliveness. If you hold your attention in your hands for a while, the sense of aliveness will intensify…

Then go to your feet, keep your attention there for a minute or so, and begin to feel your hands and feet at the same time. Then incorporate other parts of the body–legs, arms, abdomen, chest, and so on–go into that feeling until you are aware of the inner body as a global sense of aliveness. Feel the entire inner body as one single energy field.

Practice this exercise to get a feel for the energy in your inner body. When you know and recognize that feeling, you can call upon it anytime you want to feel peaceful and happy. If you are yet unable to feel the entire body at once then choosing any one part of the body will work equally. For me, the chest or the heart area is where I can feel it most easily as it is more intense there. If the feeling for you is more intense in one particular area of your body then you can focus more there.

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Daily morning and night routine: 

When you are unoccupied for a few minutes, and especially last thing at night before falling asleep and first thing in the morning before getting up, “flood” your body with consciousness (energy field inside the body).

Close your eyes.

Lie flat on your back.

Choose different parts of your body to focus your attention on briefly at first: hands, feet, arms, legs, abdomen, chest, head, and so on. Feel the life energy inside those parts as intensely as you can.

Stay with each part for fifteen seconds or so. Then let your attention run through the body like a wave a few times, from feet to head and back again.

This need only take a minute or so. After that, feel the inner body in its totality, as a single field of energy. Hold that feeling for a few minutes.

Be intensely present during that time, present in every cell of your body. Don’t be concerned if the mind occasionally succeeds in drawing your attention out of the body and you lose yourself in some thought. As soon as you notice that this has happened, just return your attention to the inner body.
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All throughout your day:

The morning and the nightly daily routine are itself going to be highly beneficial for you to carry on with your day without much of the “troubling” mind.

But use your day-to-day activities itself as a form of spiritual practice in bringing peace to your situation.

Use the mindfulness practice in all that you do.

“Mindfulness means paying attention in a particular way:
on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgmentally.” ~Jon Kabat-Zinn

This is not going to be difficult work. Also, I am not referring to the mindfulness meditation. In fact I suggest you won’t even need meditation. Use your daily life itself as a spiritual practice. Practice mindfulness in all of your day to day activities. To experience life fully and enjoy fully you will need to live in the moment.

1. Think of a to-do on your list. Something that’s tedious or seems trivial is ideal . . . like washing your hands or walking the dog. It could be something you usually do unconsciously, just going through the motions to get it over with . . . like packing your kids’ lunches or mowing the lawn.
2. Decide to do it fully. Doing something fully means giving it your full attention and doing it on purpose. By never doing anything unwillingly, you become internally aligned with the external activity instead of there being a conflict and not allowing the mind to wander.
3. Engage all your senses. Smell the grass you’re cutting, feel the wind blow against you as you go, see the trees around you, listen to the lawnmower.

It may not feel natural or make sense at first. But it will become second nature. And the more you bring those present moments into your life, the more our old conditioning (our tendency to worry, to become anxious, to feel depressed, or to engage in unhealthy behaviors) is released.

Practicing present moment awareness with simple items on your to-do list or small challenges in your everyday life retrains your mind and better prepares you to deal with problems of any size and nature. So eventually you can transcend them with ease.

Mastering the art of breaking down life into the present moment is just one important step in raising your level of consciousness to transcend any struggle that arises in your life.

This can even be done with an as simple activity as walking.

Try walking for a while as if your feet is kissing the ground.

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Feeling your inner body and mindfulness will cut the link with any mind activity (the root cause of all problems), making you present, giving you a sense of peace, happiness and joy again. With the help of mindfulness and inner body awareness you will be able to live a happy joyful life again and that too inspite of any other challenges it throws. How beautiful that would be like?

Follow all of the routines mentioned above and see how it feels without attaching your mind to any results. The mind will ask “Is that even working?” or “I am unable to feel anything”. This will mean that the mind has taken over again. Return back to the energy of your inner body. It is always there. You will begin to feel happy, peaceful and joyful again.

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You also asked – “…..What I do next to the purpose of the universe”

Take a look at the below videos. You can listen and re-listen to these, but just these. Remember you are not going to touch any other spiritual practice or self-help books 🙂 . Do not allow the “monkey mind” to jump from one video to another, from one book to another, from one spiritual article to another. Because all you ever need is in this post.

(www.youtube.com/watch?v=5AoiWPCgjXg)

(www.youtube.com/watch?v=yltxmm90N5g)

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All of the above practices are going to take care of all the issues mentioned on your post.

But I will also suggest you something to do additionally and alongside.

It is called the ‘The Wayne Cook Posture” from Donna Eden’s Energy Healing Techniques.

It is used for brain fogginess, clouded mind, not having enough clarity in thoughts.

(www.youtube.com/watch?v=LPT19Im8vnU)

(www.youtube.com/watch?v=GhllemDYXo0)

(www.youtube.com/watch?v=XCp-O995IDk)

This is a simple technique but not a substitute for Presence or mindfulness. In fact you can combine it in a way by doing the Wayne Cook Posture to unscramble the energies in your body and mind making you ready to practice Presence and Mindfulness all throughout your day including the daily morning and nightly routine.

 

Best Regards,

VJ

• This reply was modified 6 years, 11 months ago by VJ.