Dear Desolate,

1. “I Can’t Date Anymore. Can I Still Be Happy?”
Yes, but when you separate out your Life and your Life-situation.

If the above answer is not clear then I leave it for you to research as while doing that you are going to gain great insights about being happy when you do not have any of the three major factors of life – Health, Wealth, Relationships.

2. If your post was to only know about what’s in the title of this thread, then you can stop after reading the 1st point above.
But if you are looking for a soulmate, just like me, then carry on…

(https://s11.postimg.org/z6ppah9mb/Soulmate.jpg)

3. After you go through the above link, if you have a question like – “So then, what do I do, should I simply sit and do nothing and wait for my soulmate to fall on my lap?”

The answer is this e-book for you.

Anybody on this forum who has this link and are in a similar situation can download it for free but can do as suggested by the author (more below).
Free Download Link:
(http://s000.tinyupload.com/?file_id=33537370403726193065)

(The PDF on the above link will remain for an unlimited period of time unless the file is not downloaded by anyone for 100 days)

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Note from the author: Gabriella Hartwell

This book is intended for singles AND couples. This book will help you to connect with who you are so that you can draw your soul mate to you, or to bring your current relationship to a soul mate level. –

Spirit operates in giving love freely, the exchange of energy
without any expectations, and therefore I am offering my book,
You Find Your Soul Mate When You Let Go of Searching, in a PDF
format free of charge.

The only thing that I ask is if you feel inspired, please write a
review for the book on Amazon.com and spread the book to those
you think may benefit from it…

I am always available for coaching and to help anyone to connect
with and receive love.

May all the love in your heart warm you,

Gabriella Hartwell

http://www.EmergingSoul.com
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Amazon link:
(https://www.amazon.com/Find-Your-Soul-Mate-Searching/dp/061523853X)

Take Care,
VJ

• This reply was modified 8 years, 2 months ago by VJ.

Hi projectman,

There are lots of resources on Google when you search for the two things you are looking for.
I just did that and found lot many webpages which may not be feasible to write them down here .
ie; ‘list of things to bring positive energy’, ‘ways to attract positive energy’, ‘ways to protect yourself from negative energy’, ‘how to clear bad energy’…etc.

Regards,
VJ

Dear tammy9125,

A best practice for self-forgiveness is the ancient Hawaiian technique of Ho’oponopono
It’s a simple technique and I have explained it here. Check for point No 1) of this post-
(http://dev.tinybuddha.com/topic/i-can-not-live-normal-anymore-i-can-not-accept-it/#post-113485)

I’M SORRY – PLEASE FORGIVE ME – THANK YOU – I LOVE YOU

Do it with as much feeling as you can while saying those. But don’t worry much about getting the feeling part right. In that case simply do it.

Take care,
VJ

Summary of Questions from VJ
Answers from Dave (founder of the Unleash Project)

Question 1) “The project is a free weekly program where I simply send out a lesson inspired by a particular teaching from a master or teacher”
–How many weeks are the sending of lessons going to continue?…Or is it an ongoing activity?

Answer:
— The plan is for it to be an ongoing activity. Eventually I’ll have some people contribute lessons, but as long as I am studying for my own personal growth there is always something new to share!

Question:
– Each week has a lesson and an experiment or a suggested action to perform.
What if I could not cope up with the first lesson or may be was not successful on it or may be didn’t work out as expected? In that case the first week has gone by and the next lesson has arrived? How does it work in that case?

Answer:
— Yes, each lessons is intended to have a small action to take through the week. The whole point is to continue learning and experiencing new perspectives and tools/techniques, and if one resonates with you, keep using it, and if one doesn’t, then move on. Past lessons are always available in the member section.

Question 2) I did not find the Unleash Project Facebook group. Can you point to the right URL…or is it visible only after registration?

Answer:
— You receive the link with every email once you sign up.

Question 3) I came across the names of few masters/teachers on the Unleashed Project website but can you provide few more names of the masters, teachers, trainers…

Answer:
— The intention is not yet to have those teachers as guests, but to feature a lesson that is discussing an aspect of their teaching. For instance, I did one recently on Feeling is the Prayer by Gregg Braden, which discusses his book and teaching about how he has traveled the world and sat down with tribal leaders, shamans, and healers, and has identified the common ingredient, which is infusing emotion into prayer or visualization.

Question 4) The website mentions that “..You’ve spent time studying the Laws of the Universe from various sources and have put the principles into action…Your results weren’t quite what you desired…”
Yes the teachings of the LOA and the other laws of the Universe are making everyone including me feel very frustrated.
Could you elaborate how will this program be different.

Answer:
— Learning how to effectively use the LOA, in my experience, takes a lot of work breaking down past belief systems that have been set up to dis-empower us. We are not taught that we have control over our reality, we are taught to fight it or accept it. That’s why continuous study is important, because there are so many amazing teachers out there teaching their own perspectives, and many of us benefit greatly from consistent study to keep our mind engaged around the laws of the universe. As Bob Proctor says, he hasn’t put down the book Think and Grow Rich since he picked it up 50 years ago. So this program is designed to help keep you studying weekly without putting in the effort of looking for new sources of information. Really, the Unleash Project is my outlet to share with the world, and hopefully help some people willing to participate and learn and inspire along the way.

Question 5) I did read on the website about gaining money, relationship, having an ideal weight, starting a business, etc.
Is the project about attaining greater health, wealth and relationships?
OR
Is it also about achieving peace of mind, love, happiness, joy, bliss?
For me they are two different things. As an example, just having lots of money will not automatically mean that I am going to be happy.

Answer:
— You are exactly right, it needs to start with happiness and love and success will follow. The program is about all aspects of exploring our connection to the universe and the laws that govern it. This is not a paid program to learn to earn more money or fix your relationship, this is a free program that is intended to explore all aspects of achieving oneness and whatever you desire. Ultimately I would like the participants to help guide what we study every week – I want it to be a mastermind study group.

Question 6) Is the Paradigm Project a collaborative tool that is coming up in near future?

Answer:
— It’s a concept my partner in the project and I came up with that we are exploring a little. It will take significant funding to develop, which we plan on doing, but we currently have no set launch dates. I’m thinking of creating a kickstarter campaign for it. It’s kind of the “grand vision” which is a platform we can use to study and experiment with global co-creation.

Dear endlessskies,

1) Yes you are already beautiful, undoubtedly.
How? – At the time when our body dies (before it gets decayed) we still lie down there with the same physical structure – our hair, features of the face, body structure, (even the T-shirt), etc. that was on the same morning when the person dies. If someone shaved on that day then the dead body will be cleanly shaved. If we had a lot of beard or a moustache on that day then the dead body will be seen that way. Irrespective of the physical appearance, the body has died. The physical body is still lying there, but then what has gone from the body such that the person is being called as “dead”? What is no more “inside” the body such that the same person (or body) who was talking and laughing yesterday is now no more moving lying out there? That’s the Life-Force inside our body that animates our being. That’s the Soul that gives life to the body. Without the soul, the body is like a light bulb without electricity. In short, we are not the Body but the Soul. We are the Soul and this Body is our medium (vehicle) through which we express our thoughts, feelings and actions. The Soul, in itself, does not have any physical structure like eyes, nose, ears, face, beard, etc. Those are features of the body. The Soul is just a sparkling, a jewel, a radiant inner being. You (and I) are that beautiful radiant inner being. That is why it is said as “You are the Light”. You are the light, no matter what’s gonna be. The Body keeps on changing but the Soul remains the same. – “You are the same, you are eternity.”

With the above knowledge always in the intellect of your mind, make a distinction between your Body and your Soul. Separate them out. Be as much as possible in the Soul-Conscious mode versus the Body-Conscious mode. You can do that by imagining yourself as that beautiful sparkling seated at the center of your forehead. Imagine the below picture whenever you come across any unfavourable situations that bother you.

(https://s9.postimg.org/j5nbtxdpr/Soul_img.jpg)

May be you could save it onto your mobile to refer frequently.

Continue to keep focusing on your work and all your blessings that you mentioned. Continue to “Be the Light” to the world, that you already are.

2) Got through Sam Berns’ ‘My philosophy for a happy life’ who was diagnosed with Progeria, a rare, rapid aging disease, at the age of 2.

3) “How do I stay strong inside when people are constantly staring at me or laughing at me.”

At first, separate out and visualize yourself as described above in Point 1) during those unfavourable experiences.
At some situations when our visualization goes weak, like it happens for all of us, use the below practical tip which you will surely be able to do.

All you need to do is simply say, declare, chant, sing, proclaim, or even just think the word “PRAISE”.
Keep repeating it either silently or loudly or mentally, however you want and whenever you want and especially during those unwanted situations.

Explanation:
PRAISE – to feel beautiful; to feel yourself charming and attractive; to praise yourself irrespective of anybody else’s opinion.

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These are very powerful words and they are called as Switchwords.
More details on what they are and how to use them are explained in the below post.
You can take a look at it at a later stage.
(http://dev.tinybuddha.com/topic/need-a-miracle/#post-114281)
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Keep yourself equipped with these things and you will continue to Be The Light of your Soul because You Are Not Your Body!

Take Care.

VJ

• This reply was modified 8 years, 2 months ago by VJ.

Dear Maria Mango,

A) For immediate relaxation and better clarity of mind I would like to suggest you the below breathing exercises at the below link.
By taking out a few minutes to do the below Breathing exercises…“those few minutes are going to give you a lot many hours”.
(http://dev.tinybuddha.com/topic/relationship-end/#post-113816)

B) For something long term that you referred as on a more important level – “how to step back from workaholism and face my compulsive behaviors constructively”

From your description in the post it looks like you are right now in the negative states of ‘Oak’ and ‘Olive’ types of personalities. Nothing wrong in you but they are referred as personality types and just temporary imbalances. Bach flower remedies can help restore balance from negative states to positive ones. Do not consider them as a “one stop wonder cure for everything” but since you are at the tipping point of things (“can’t move forward”) they will definitely help improve your situation. Read on to know more….

Step 1) Identify the required Bach flower remedy/ies

Oak
I tend to overwork and keep on in spite of exhaustion
I have a strong sense of duty and never give up
I neglect my own needs in order to complete a task

Olive
I feel completely exhausted, physically and/or mentally
I am totally drained of all energy with no reserves left
I have just been through a long period of illness or stress

—–???
Elm???
I feel overwhelmed by my responsibilities
I don’t cope well under pressure
I have temporarily lost my self-confidence

Centaury???
I often neglect my own needs to please
I find it difficult to say “no”
I tend to be easily influenced

Rock Water????
I set high standards for myself
I am strict with my health, work &/or spiritual discipline
I am very self-disciplined, always striving for perfection

If any of these relate to your situation then you may want to identify more from the below link as only you are the best judge of yourself. (Hence Elm, Centaury and Rock Water have question mark ??? signs against them)

(http://www.bachflower.com/bach-flower-remedy-questionnaire)

Step 2)Check out their detailed descriptions
Once you have identified the names of remedies based on your current situation write them down, and then go through their detailed descriptions on the below links, especially Oak and Olive (or any additional ones that you may have identified)

(http://www.bachcentre.com/centre/38/oak.htm)
(http://www.bachcentre.com/centre/38/olive.htm)
(http://www.bachcentre.com/centre/38/elm.htm)

(http://www.bachflower.org/oak.htm)
(http://www.bachflower.org/olive.htm)
(http://www.bachflower.org/elm.htm)

(http://mudraguide.com/bach-flower-remedies-oak-and-success.html)
(http://mudraguide.com/bach-flower-remedies-olive-and-exhaustion.html)
(http://mudraguide.com/bach-flower-remedies-elm-and-inadequacy.html)

Not 100% of everything that is mentioned under any particular Bach remedy may match with you but you can pick the closest possible ones(s).

Add or Remove from the ones that I mentioned in Step B 1) after you go through the detailed descriptions from Step B 2). You can combine up to 7 individual remedies. It is recommended that at the beginning you combine less number of remedies as possible starting with the one(s) for the strongest issue(s) you are currently facing. While consuming them, other issues may often start to dissipate. Move on to the next remedy (or combination of remedies) for issues faced in the past or of lesser intensity.
If in confusion just go ahead with the one(s) that resonate with you the most (where you feel “I think I should take this one”).

How to take?
They can be taken as often as needed, either by taking 2-4 drops directly on the tongue or by adding 2-4 drops in a glass of water and drinking/sipping it slowly over a period of time. You can keep a 1 litre water bottle at your office desk and every morning before start of day add 4-6 drops of the remedies to that bottle and consume them during the day. I used to take it this way. Refill the water and re-add the drops if necessary.

Additional info on how to take the remedies?
(http://bachcentre.com/centre/take.htm)
(http://www.bachflower.com/how-to-mix-bach-flower-remedies)
Many other links on the web

Where to buy?

The name “Bach Flower Remedies” is not trademarked and anyone can make their own Bach Flower Remedies.
If you take the original Bach Flower Essences with Dr. Bach’s signature on them then you need not worry about their preservation etc.
They are available at several places all over the web.

I personally purchased them from Amazon US. But below are some more links that I had found during my search for the remedies and thought of sharing them so you don’t need to find them.

Make sure you select your country on applicable websites and also check their shipping policies.

– (https://www.luckyvitamin.com/m-309-bach-original-flower-remedies)
– (http://www.vitacost.com/bach-flower-remedies-1)
(http://www.vitacost.com/bach-flower-remedies-essence-oak)
(http://www.vitacost.com/bach-flower-remedies-essence-olive)
– (https://www.evitamins.com/bach-flower-remedies)
– (http://www.directlyfromnature.com/The_Original_Bach_Flower_Remedies_Information_and_Sale_s/1818.htm)

The 30 ml empty mixing bottle is also available on these websites if you are keen on taking it that way.
For eg; (https://www.luckyvitamin.com/p-9492-bach-original-flower-remedies-mixing-bottle-30-ml)

If you are interested in using them then you can find out more about ‘Bach flower remedies’ on the web to find out their efficacy, price comparisons among various websites, discounts and coupons offered, etc. Bach flower essences can well be identified and taken by ourselves but if you need any help I will be able to provide you with some information.

I know it’s a long post 🙂 but had to do it that way for explanation purposes and pin-pointing in the right direction.

Best Regards,
VJ.

• This reply was modified 8 years, 2 months ago by VJ.