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Dear Blake,
Since all of what you explained happened just two months ago I will suggest you to do EFT for your issues.
EFT or Emotional Freedom Techniques is useful for freeing yourself from any negative energy or emotions (although it is also used for physical issues).
There are lots of videos and articles over the web explaining how to do EFT. Check them out, but if you are also ok with some tailor made EFT tapping scripts at a small paid amount then I recommend the below website.
This is a wonderful website for EFT scripts on almost every single issue of our day to day lives.
(http://tap-easy.com)
Go through the site and you will find things relating to your issues like anxiety, panic attacks, low self-esteem and there might also be certain things that may require “healing” from the emotionally abusive relationship. You will be able to relate by simply glancing through the titles on the homepage of the site.
Although you may have (thought that you have) bounced back from the negative emotions of the relationship, there are chances that they may still be stuck in your unconscious/subconscious memories and may be running in the background causing anxiety issues in the foreground.You are doing the right thing about choosing a healthy diet, exercising, staying away from toxic people and situations, setting personal goals, etc. At the same time something like EFT is required to cleanse the negative emotional debris.
as an fyi -the owner of the site Sonal Pandey will respond in case you have any queries/questions/doubts as I have personally interacted too.
Take care,
VJDear Alex,
It looks from what you have written that you are stressed out and there are overwhelming feelings and causing issues as a result of them.
I want to straight-away suggest you something practical.
For chronic mental fatigue I recommend you the Alternate Nostril breathing technique posted on the below link.
(http://dev.tinybuddha.com/topic/relaxation-meditation-techniques/#post-114812)
The 7-11 Breathing Technique is also effective when you are feeling overwhelmed and you can also feel free to try that too.Please do them diligently especially before you sit through looking for openings and going through the procedure of submitting resumes. A daily morning practice or before going to bed is the best.
Sometimes that does happen – “getting psychologically tired”, but trust me it will be temporary.
The children’s energies are way much higher than the parents and both these energies could never match. You are already doing all that you can from what you have mentioned. You are being a nice mother. While writing this I came across a quote on TinyBuddha and it is apt for your situation since you are already doing your best.
Here is the image:
(http://dev.tinybuddha.com/fun-and-inspiring/go-easy-on-yourself/)Even if they are not babies anymore they are still not adults yet. They are still children and are going to throw tantrums. If children do not do that then it doesn’t sound mature when an adult does that (though some adults do that š )
Even the Oxford meaning of tantrum says that it is typically done by a young child and the example below says that they do it when things don’t go their way.
(https://en.oxforddictionaries.com/definition/tantrum)The earlier breathing exercises were for relaxation and now I want to suggest you something practical for gaining energy and it is done by a simple hand gesture called Prana mudra.
Prana means energy or life and that is what you need at this moment and you will get it by doing this mudra (hand gesture).Prana mudra stimulate the root chakra, which creates a vibration within, that awakens and energizes the body.
Prana Mudra is said to generate and redirect life energy. This life energy is the energy that animates the living being . It redirects this life to the parts where it is most needed. It also gives vitality to the body and eliminates fatigue and even nervousness along with other benefits.Instructions on doing the mudra:
1) Practice it with both hands.
2) Tips of ring and little finger to be joined with the tip of thumb.
3) All other fingers should be stretched straight.That’s all. You can do this while doing any other activity when your hands are free, for eg; while watching the TV, even while waiting in a queue and even while talking to someone.
But if you have a straight thirty minutes of regular practice in the morning then that would be highly beneficial. And then you can do intermittently as and when during the day.It will also help you in your anger and irritability issues.
Note that Prana Mudra is called Elixir of Life. An image is shown here although if you do an Image Search it is available all over the web.
(http://mrinalkantipal.blogspot.in/2012/12/pran-mudra-elixir-of-life.html)“I havenāt started working yet, but Iām already (psychologically) tired.”
If you have the tiredness and mental fatigue even before joining a job, then put a “Pause” on your job hunting for a while
until you get back on track. How? By doing the alternate nostril breathing and by doing Pran mudra as and when, I am sure you will regain your lost strength and everything in life will fall back in place including your relationship with your husband which is nothing but only due to things like stress, fatigue, tiredness, etc.Take Care,
VJDear sherrysagecmw,
It’s nice to see your own method of releasing for tension relief. Thanks.
Yes this post of yours is definitely going to be read and practiced by somebody on the planet.For spreading more such wonderful tips and techniques I encourage more and more people who come across this post to go ahead and comment your own technique on this thread. It will definitely benefit someone looking for something exactly like what you have posted.
It could be something as simple as counting from 1 to 10 when you are angry or upset or something about your own way of practicing mindfullness. Just make sure that it is clear enough for the reader to be understandable by simply reading it and starting with the practice.
Thank you once again!
Warm Regards,
VJDear Anonymous,
Sometimes those situations that you explained do come in our lives.
I want to come straight to an action point for you. For that I suggest you to make a list of all things that you are good at (it may be job and non-job related ones). Perhaps you can start in the descending order…..the best that you can do will be at the top and that way going down to the bottom of list.
There could be things which you like to do (don’t think now whether it will pay you or not)….there could be things where you forget about time and space…where you forget about what’s going on around you, or certain things which you cannot be disturbed whatsoever. It can be as simple as making someone laugh or cheering someone up. Include those too.
I am currently super busy so in the interest of time I suggest you to take a look at this post.
Do not scroll through other answers from me on this link, although you can look upwards, but not downwards. You will be doing that later.
(http://dev.tinybuddha.com/topic/need-a-change-of-work-search-strategy-perhaps-please-help/#post-113583)————-
And then only after you make the above list go through the below post.
(http://dev.tinybuddha.com/topic/need-a-change-of-work-search-strategy-perhaps-please-help/#post-113706)Take care,
VJš nice to hear that on how the Universe is guiding you.
Regarding the follow up posts….take a look at this follow up post for that same post š
(http://dev.tinybuddha.com/topic/how-can-i-love-myself/page/2/#post-117674)Don’t let that stop you from having any questions and please feel free to write back but don’t let the thinking mind trick you….don’t allow it to say you that you will have more and more questions as you read else the mind has the capacity to take us into an infinite loop….keep things plain and simple as the action point explained in the above link.
Take care,
VJ
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