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  • February 4, 2016 at 5:03 pm in reply to: Should I move on? #95056
    Susannah
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    Thank you Dina and Anita for your words! It’s amazing to me how someone from the outside can have so many insights. All the two of you said makes complete sense to me. I really appreciate your messages.
    I haven’t heard from him ever since. Lately he even turned off the ‘last seen on’ feature of whatsapp so it really feels like he’s gone. He’s not a fb or instagram user, so I have absolutely no news/signs that he’s even alive if you know what I mean.

    Anyway, now it’s finally time to move on. It hurts again but what other choice do I have, right?

    If I ever have any updates I’ll share them here.

    Susan

    January 28, 2016 at 6:02 am in reply to: Should I move on? #94038
    Susannah
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    Hi anita,

    it’s been a while since my last message. Thank you again for having the time to reply so kindly.

    I am still torn between letting go or having hope.
    Actually, I have tried moving on many times, reading his breakup words, reading the message saying he wasn’t in love with me anymore. But it seems impossible. My head and heart won’t believe this is over so I find myself wondering if this could be some sort of insight or inner voice telling me this isn’t over.

    Anyway, after our message I spoke to his sister and one of his best friends and found out none of them knew about the breakup. 2 months later and no one knows. She even told me she tried talking to him during xmas because he was acting weird, but he shut her off.

    Also, I messaged him asking about my things, if he had sent them to my address. But he only answered me with a YES after I sent him another message “Is it so hard to say yes or no?”.

    Knowing now that he hasn’t told people about the break-up makes me so much more confused. Does it mean he’s unsure? Or simply avoiding comments from people? Because he cannot hide this fact forever.

    In my desperate attempt to find some peace, I’ve been much more devoted to the spiritual part of my life. In this process I went to the church, to a a famous gypsy, to a spiritualist center, to a tarot reader… If someone told me they were good, I would give it a try. And to my surprise they all said the same thing: the two of you will be together,

    At first I was so relieved! So many people were telling exactly the same thing plus what I wanted to hear and whenever I prayed for God asking for a sign I would get one. But after a while all these future readings became a burden. They make me more confused. Is it possible for someone to see the future? Is it possible for God to actually give me those signs? Am I going crazy?

    My heart still hurts and I made no progress in moving on…

    January 7, 2016 at 2:24 pm in reply to: Should I move on? #91720
    Susannah
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    Hi Anita,

    I guess I’m still trying to understand because the way he broke up with me(he messaged me btw) saying he doesn’t love me anymore 3 weeks after saying the opposite and acting like he did (my bday was in early November. He sent me flowers, chocolates, a card and a balloon) makes it hard to believe his words. Also it is weird to me that he would disappear like this. I sent him a message today and he saw but didn’t reply.
    I can’t understand what happened and I guess that if I did it would be easier to believe this is over and move on.
    I try to convince myself that I should let go but something inside me keeps me from doing so.
    I wonder if somethings else is going on in his life and all this make me wonder if after the storm is gone he’ll realize he actually loves me.
    He paid for his ticket, I paid for mine and the hotel reservations plus engagement dinner (for 80 people)!!!

    I don’t want the money back. What I need is an honest conversation face to face but he denies me that.

    Also he never apologized for breaking my heart. He only said he didn’t want me to hate him.

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    January 7, 2016 at 10:56 am in reply to: Should I move on? #91691
    Susannah
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    Anita, thank you very much for replying. As you can see it’s been hard times for me and I was desperate to hear someone’s opinion.

    You are correct. He was always consistent. We got engaged last January. Ever since we met he mentioned how much he wanted a family. We always talked about our future life together, having kids, where to live, dogs, etc.
    He was so consistent that it took me by surprise when during one of my scared moments last October he said to me that after his divorce he had made a promise to himself that he would never get married again, but after he met me he couldn’t walk away and those feelings changed because he really wanted a life together with me.

    After the visa, plane ticket and engagement dinner preparation he became distant and decided he fell out of love.

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    January 7, 2016 at 7:49 am in reply to: Should I move on? #91668
    Susannah
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    Help anyone?

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