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VeronicaParticipantThanks Joe 🙂 Same here. Every day I read different articles of all sort of topics to improve my life. But still.. Nothing ever change. It felt like I fall into a dark pit and no one is there to save me. I keep going around and around but still there is no way out..
VeronicaParticipantHi busybee 🙂 you must be traumatize that the idea of seeing him again bothers you. How confident are you to go there? If your confident enough, you can simply avoid him during the party. If not, you can tell your friend and maybe set a schedule wherein the both of you enjoy and have a great time. Im sure she will understand that.
It would be great if you also consider this as a opportunity for closure. You are great, he is fine. You both are doing fine in your life. Everybody is having fun. 🙂 your call 🙂
VeronicaParticipantHi anitaaaaaaa! Thank you for responding. You’re one of my favorite person. 🙂 anyway, i guess you are right. It was interesting but… Naaaah. I don’t mind. Hahaha! Thank you for affirming anita 🙂
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VeronicaParticipant@greenshade, i was shock yet i felt nothing, just staring at the picture. Eventually i found myself relieved. It felt like a burden was lifted. No anger nor sadness. Can’t exactly explain the feeling. More close to what i describe.
January 10, 2017 at 4:29 am in reply to: Safe yet routinary job or challenging yet adventurous job? #124991VeronicaParticipant@anita, it is enough for me to live on but not as high as the other one. Most of my friends would pick the 1st one since it pays high but I don’t like to be stagnant. Anyway, Thank you for answering 🙂
@Mishika, i totally agree with you. I think I should think of it as enjoyable rather than challenging.Beforehand this post, I choose the 2nd one. Still, it pays when someone agrees with you. Thank you all! 🙂
VeronicaParticipantThank you peter for your suggestion. Thank you anita for giving me a new kind of perspective about inner critic 🙂
VeronicaParticipantThank you anita. I would like to ask you a question or anybody.. How do we deal with critisicm? How to deal with difficult people?
VeronicaParticipantYour situation is worst than mine (not having a father ) and yet it seems that you are very wise, positive and kind. I feel ashamed that I keep whining about my problems. I hope someday I could be as positive as you are anita 🙂
VeronicaParticipantWow anita. There are wonderful words I could use it to remind me always. Thank you 🙂
As of now, i am planning to move. Although I still don’t figured it out yet, I am taking things as “going with the flow”. I been through a lot lately that is why I wanted to be patient with myself.
I realized that I have been neglecting myself, my inner callings, because I always keep on thinking what can make my parents happy. It does makes me happy however temporarily. I used to sacrifice a lot for the people I loved.
I am not sure what exactly are the things I need to let go. Perhaps, my insecurities – I find hard to accept compliments than criticism. Self doubts and worrisome attitude.
Living free would mean not being slave to circumstance and powerful would mean taking control of everything especially the mind and will.
VeronicaParticipantI know, right? 🙂 its not mine. I just found it in the internet. I was totally drawn by it the moment I saw. Aside from wearing red gown (favorite color), it’s like she’s letting go of something, making her look free and powerful.
VeronicaParticipantHonestly, its hard to find someone who has the same mindset with mine. I had been with relationships (some are even toxic) but it is given me more hard time than as single. As of now, my only friend is my diary that doesn’t judge me. This forum helps me alot. Just reading with several threads and all the supportive response do helps a lot. Thank you 🙂
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@anita My mom is caring. Yet she is always busy. Always. She is quite a nagger. Both of my parents.Ever since I am young, I am always been on my own, but its okay, it made me to be independent person. My father was about my age when he got me, I am 24 yrs old now @jon kirkham . I am the reason of their marriage due to my existence. It seems all his supressed dreams, he passed it to me. I understand that part. I understand why he is treating me this way. But, sometimes, I can’t take it anymore. I am tired of following what he wants. We rarely talk and every time we do, it is about my career life. He would suggest to do this and that in an authorative tone. I did tried to open up yet he was unwelcoming about it. He raised his voice even more and I ended up “nodding”
I tried to open up with my mother. But, she just simply say that I should just understand my father. I did. I really did. But it is so tiring. Besides she is so busy with her religious stuff. I really hate the hypocrisy of this matter. My parents are both active in church, always attending masses. They even, especially my mom, scolds me if I don’t go to church. Even my belief and faith, they want me to follow theirs. I really hate masses. Excuse me for that. I am filipino. I was raised and born in catholic world. Somehow, they are close minded in terms of how I think and philosophizes about life that is not aligned with them.
VeronicaParticipantI’ve been quite good lately. I guess all of your advices help me a lot. I did what adam said.. Affirmation. I just simply say ” i feel better now” cause if it’s to extreme like “feeling wonderful” – that would stress me out cause Im not. I think simple words will do. I also followed what anita said, i recalled my childhood memory. I reflected on it and still working it out. I also encountered the term “neuroplasticity” which I think can help me deal this issues slowly.
Im just glad you guys replied to my post. Thank you.
December 29, 2016 at 9:15 pm in reply to: Feeling that something is off and suspicious,ADVICE!! #123974VeronicaParticipantI see. I completely understand you alexa, we always have that side of ours that is so frighten about something we can’t control. However, our response to it is what matters most. The only way to figure it out is to confront your boyfriend. And if it seems that there is totally something wrong, then you need to make a decision whether this kind of relationship is still worth fighting for. And if there is nothing wrong, I guess you need to work on with your insecurities.
We have that cliche sayings ” In love, there is no fear ”
I hope this advice could help you, alexa
VeronicaParticipantI will deeply consider all your advices. Thank you so much.
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