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  • February 11, 2014 at 6:47 am #50755
    Manuel Durán
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    Hey Mariana,

    Thanks for replying and sharing, I guess it’s something we gotta go though while trying to get something from it. apparently what happened with your ex made you realize that something needed to change, similar sort of revelation I’m having right now. I’ve come to understand I need to love and respect myself more so I can do it to others, otherwise all fears and insecurities will always lead to contradictory and inconsistent behaviors.

    You’ve done the healing process and change took place, now you see things from a different angle and also recognize what’s going on with your girlfriend. One big lesson was taught to me by my ex, it was the lesson of trusting the universe and loving carefree, which also involves “don’t do to others what you don’t want to be done to you” so I guess we just need to trust and try to genuinely love without all we were taught about love by movies, music and media and don’t get me wrong on this one I’m a filmmaker myself but ever since romanticism, drama has taken over love. Jodorwski says “”So much the tree loves the leaf that it lets it fly away in Autumn”.

    Wish you all the best. I’m glad you shared. 🙂

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    January 9, 2014 at 8:12 am #48776
    Manuel Durán
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    Hi there,

    From what you’ve said I believe you should focus on yourself, your boyfriend might have become as he doesn’t care, but what’s important is that you care, that you care for yourself. It sounds to me that you might work on loving more yourself maybe I time separated will do good, I thing you should focus on building yourself and becoming your best friend besides take into account that being separated doesn’t necessarily mean a bad thing since you are not possessions of each other. When you love you gotta let go sometimes and according to what you’re saying maybe life is asking you to engage a relationship with yourself before you can fix any other relationship. Be kind to him, be at the better terms but isolate from him for a while to think what’s wrong. A relationship’s purpose isn’t about feeling sad or bad, it’s otherwise so when that isn’t happening you must reconsider.

    Feel blessed every day you wake up Bernadette. Best regards.

    January 9, 2014 at 7:47 am #48775
    Manuel Durán
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    Hi There Allison,

    First time commenting here, I just couldn’t help doing it since I find myself related to your story. I broke up with my boyfriend almost a month ago, he is also a very talented artist. We were together for 2 years, I have never loved anyone as I love him. We went through separation since I was working in a cruise company as camera man and broadcast technician so I had to travel around the world for several months and still we made it work. I used to spend a lot of money calling him from the ship I was, we missed each other so hard that we agreed to move together as soon as I came back, but I actually moved to his place which I never felt as my own. It also was his workplace so I ended up working on his projects and feeling I was going to end up rejected and alone once we were long years together and he would have accomplished everything in his career. All of the sudden I felt suffocated and I moved. He got shocked and he said we could work it out but I felt I need my own space to think, that seemed the right thing to do at that moment, I guess I got my -turning 30- sort of crisis (he’s 30 as well), I felt I needed to focus on myself and I couldn’t do it living with him at his workplace.
    Now I miss him like hell, I’ve been through a suffering spiral where I’ve just been at home depressed, I had to shut down almost all my social media accounts, now I understand that I just need some time for myself, I can’t love him if I don’t love myself first and fulfil my dreams. Thanks to tiny buddha I’ve found some relief and I’ve been able to work out on my self esteem I think that also had a lot to do with it, and well I’m filling my head with thoughts of love and understanding, no one belongs to us and we don’t belong to anyone. I guess that’s what has helped me more. Jodorswki once said: so much the tree loves the leaf that it lets it fly on autumn. I guess we gotta trust life and ourselves and maybe our paths with our exes will cross one day.

    My best regards for you and It was liberating to read your story I hope my perspective might help a bit.

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