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VParticipantAnita,
That is so kind of you 🙂 Thank you for everything, and I will definitely write to you again. Take care!
VParticipantHi Sue!
Your response bought a smile to my face <3. Admittedly, I often apply the perfectionism thinking in my day-to-day work. I feel very satisfied when I give my best effort to everything – which is good but then definitely has its downfalls. I need to be more aware and remember not to hide behind this ‘not enough’ thinking or use it as an excuse. I will never reach a perfect version of myself obviously. Thank you for bringing that up.
I have been so hesitant to be in a relationships that I think I have subconsciously closed off opening up to guys, which is not good. I do need to open myself to form a relationship in the future. I am realizing this has blocked my personal growth as well in the present. Funnily enough, I was just thinking about this last week, and planned to make a conscious effort to open myself up more to form deeper friendships. They really teach you more about yourself than you would expect.
I felt so nice and grateful for your words. I really appreciate your time 🙂
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VParticipantDear Anita,
I really really appreciate your words. I wasn’t able to talk to anyone about this, and talking it out here has made me feel lighter and given me more clarity. Thinking over everything, I can see my physical insecurities being the biggest point. I think once I work over them in the next couple of years, it will help me open up and I can also focus on my career during this time. I observed how much more confident I feel when I am physically feeling and looking good, and I often miss that confidence. I am not saying that I am obsessed with physical looks and everything, but I was one of those girls who never paid any attention to looks and clothes until high school. Now that I am growing up, I am finding I want that physical confidence with me. It has been holding me back subconsciously in other areas of life too. Working on this and other insecurities/fear makes me feel much more confident and loving with myself.
Sorry for the blabbering but THANK YOU for listening 🙂
VParticipantHi Roro – Thank you for taking the time to respond! I never gave much thought to how dating can also help me learn more about myself. Holding off for now sounds better for me personally.
VParticipantHi Anita!
Thank you so much for reading and replying 🙂 I appreciate what you wrote for me and it definitely helped to hear your views.
While thinking about what you wrote, I think my biggest insecurities are physical. I don’t hate my body (I am very grateful for a healthy working body), but I am not exactly comfortable with it either. I recognize many of hesitations comes from the physical aspect and I have started to work on them, losing weight being the biggest one. I have decided to work on myself physically until I graduate to overcome my fears and insecurities.
Also, I never thought about setting ground rules for dating. I love that idea and I want to think about those before I start to date. I usually feel confident in my reasonings not to date right now, but sometimes I tend to lose sight of that because literally every other person is dating or has dated. Makes me feel if I am wrong or committing a mistake, you know? But I know first dealing with my stuff will only help me in the long run.
Thank you for your words!
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