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  • August 25, 2019 at 9:04 pm in reply to: In a situation about leaving my fiancĂ©e #309315
    Valentina
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    Michelle,

    taking the steps whether to officially leave my fiancĂ© has been difficult. I have considered staying with his mother but in reality I have a job to attend to and bills to pay so unfortunately I wouldn’t be able to take time off (weeks) to be with his mom for emotional support. I have been taking the time to really think about what I want in life. I appreciate your advice.

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    August 25, 2019 at 8:57 pm in reply to: In a situation about leaving my fiancée #309311
    Valentina
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    Mark,

    It does makes sense. yes I have found that the only reason why I would talk to the other man was because he was kinder but I really don’t know if he’s kind in person if we would’ve went on a date. For the last few days I have really put in thought that it is  best for me to focus on myself and my child instead of men. I do definitely need the space away from relationships.

    August 19, 2019 at 6:27 pm in reply to: In a situation about leaving my fiancée #308629
    Valentina
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    Mark,

    At the moment he doesn’t want to take medication for his bipolar disorder. He did say he will make an appointment with his dr to ask for natural alternatives to cope with his anger. I advised him to take some kind of class since there is classes available. We talked and he does not want to leave our relationship he wants to continue to be with me and for our child. Again I believe I had an “emotional affair” with another man because Of the way he has treated me.

    Yes correct it’s my house. I haven’t changed the locks because he has respected the fact that I want space until he thinks through what he is going to do with his issue. I am still upset for how he treated me for the first two days after he choked me I wasn’t able to swallow any hard food just liquids.  I also texted the other man and it feels as the other man has moved on. The other man asked me if I missed him and I said “yes I do” and he responded asking me why do I miss him and so does he. When I wanted to start a conversation about what’s new with his life he didn’t respond and I believe he’s moved on which is a good thing for him. But at the moment I am just confused about my love life! All I want is stability with my feelings.

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    August 17, 2019 at 7:38 pm in reply to: In a situation about leaving my fiancée #308401
    Valentina
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    Chloe,

    I have told him to leave my house and he respected that and left so far right now we are taking a break because idk whether I should ask him to get help for his bipolar issues but I’m afraid it will back fire if I ask him to get help. I have been on the hotline many times for the past years and I have been afraid to pick up the phone and call the locations the persons on the hotline have gave me to call. There’s nights where I wake up panicked looking at him. When he was younger he would take medication for his issue but I’m not sure if I should bring it up to him. I’ve told his mother and she said she was going to advise him to take action with his issue or else she will allow me and my child to stay with her in the state she lives in. (His mother and I are 11 hours away.)

    August 14, 2019 at 8:17 pm in reply to: In a situation about leaving my fiancée #308051
    Valentina
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    You are right mark. Thank you.

    August 14, 2019 at 4:55 pm in reply to: In a situation about leaving my fiancée #307949
    Valentina
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    Thank you Mark for all the information you have provided I honestly didn’t know that being in an abusive relationship can really take a bad effect on a child this is good for me to know because that way I can take the time to really think about this for my child’s health.

    August 14, 2019 at 3:58 pm in reply to: In a situation about leaving my fiancée #307939
    Valentina
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    Thank you mark, I continued to chat with them and they gave me resources I can contact. I have been dealing with this for 7 years and it’s not an easy decision.

    July 27, 2019 at 8:31 pm in reply to: Mindfulness and Grieving What Could Have Been #305259
    Valentina
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    Chloe, I read your post and I’m glad your overcoming your situation with that man. You have a lot of strength. I’m happy I’m not the only one that has gone through this situation while currently in a relationship. I find that working out really helps me not thinking about the other man because I think about me and how I feel within my inner self. So far it’s been one month for me and I’m finding it sort of hard to move on but I know time heals. Again thank you for sharing your post.

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