Thank you for the encouraging words and advice. I have a long way to go or these people would not be affecting me like they are even if they dont mean to.
I realise that I am terribly insecure. I hate uncertainty, I hate not knowing and I hate that someone might withold information from me. I need clarity, specifics. And I know that is all around control and that I cant always have certainty. How do I let go of that need to know?
Thank you for comments and support. When I said I had no choice to change – actually I realise that my relationships are defined by my need to control and therefore for my own future happiness that has to change. We have discussed this a little now. And he says that there may have been a little bit of him that was reluctant to say it because he didn’t want to hurt me. I am fully aware that this is down to me.
Thank you Mar. Have been pondering this more overnight. In the past I have let things go and it has bitten me on the ass later on down the line. he is actually very good at listening in the right environment and takes things on board too. At the moment I am minded to say something but along the lines of what I can do to help him not do the same again. I realise that previous reactions from me may occasionally make it difficult for him to be as open with me as he could be.
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