No, I just don’t think I need to start out that way in a 2nd attempt to schedule a time to get my stuff.   I think telling him I want my stuff is a pretty clear message I am moving on.  If he resists scheduling a time, then I will get more pushy with him.

No.  I am going to text him tomorrow and tell him “I am free Wednesday afternoon, Thursday and Saturday.  Which day will work best for me to come get my stuff.”

I am still really sad about things, and I need to get my stuff so I can start trying to heal and put this behind me.  (I would not say this part, this is just how I am feeling).

Hi Anita,

Thanks for your response.  At this point I have not heard from him – I posted this originally on another site so I should have updated some.  It has now been 26 days since I heard from him and that was when he broke up with me on the phone.

So – he is either still struggling with the anxiety, he is just over me and this point, or maybe he feels bad about the way he handled things and doesn’t want to face me.  Who knows.

I have a ton of stuff still at his house, so I am going to wait until next Wednesday (because I have a few days off then) and then text him and tell him I am ready to come get my stuff.  At that point I will have given him a full month without me contacting him.  I guess I will see what happens then.

I do wish I would get the chance to be a supportive and positive person in his life, but if he doesn’t want that, I can’t force it.  I am just very sad about it all.

Hey Mark – Thanks for the comments.  He is actually close to his daughter – it is his mother that he hates and hasn’t seen in 10 years.  She (the mother) was at the daughter’s birthday party and that is where he saw her.