To get organized for the work week, get your foo in order.

First, establish a backup cupboard. In your closet, basement, laundry room. The idea is to have a couple 2 liter bottles of diet coke, cans of soup, box of crackers, bars of soap. So when you run out of these in your main pantry because your miscalculated in your mind how much you had left, you do not have to go out to the store in the middle of the night.

Secondly, stock up. It saves trips to the store, is forced savings and is prepping. Over buying will eventually save you a trip to the store. You do your main buying on your schedule, not at the mercy of fate, like on Saturday afternoon when Walmart is packed.

Third go to Walmart when its dead there. Eat before going and have a large block of time for shopping. Hang out there. Slowly cruise the aisles looking at the merchandise, pick up that extension cord, bottle of mustard, deluxe paper napkins. A pair of pliers, a light bulb, needful things.

Fourth, keep a shopping booklet/list on you. When you need an item, put it on the list. My list is predominately Walmart stuff but can include a Home Depot item. The point is, you have what you need listed and on you so you do not forget.

Look at it this way, there are various levels of buying. Cheapest it Costco/Sams Club water,paper towels, dog food, mouth wash. If you cannot get it there, you move up in price to Walmart. Canned goods, etc. Some meat and produce.Then you move to main stream grocery store. Produce,meat, etc. And Home Depot or Lowes. More high end stuff and specialty. Finally ACE Hardware for the specialty stuff. Bed,Bath and Beyond. Its just a general model for buying.

Have two bank accounts. Two debit cards. Only allow one to be drafted by on line type companies. With the second secured bank account with no one’s fingers in it, you can always get gas, etc. in a pinch.

Have a smart phone? Set up those bank account apps. You can check your balance.

Have a big to do list. Go over it daily. Update it weekly. Put stars in front of hot items.
Make it action oriented, first step. Like: Measure for door mat, load broken clock to return, find oil change coupon.

Have a partner. You go to their house for an afternoon to do stuff and then they come to your house for an afternoon to do stuff.

I am seeing a very liberal woman with a 13 year old girl. When Bill Clinto was dealing with Monica he said that Blow Jobs were not sex. Remember. Well this girl had found that clip on You Tube and the girl loves Bill Clinton. So the girl bought the argument hook line and sinker. She gives blow jobs to her boy friends. This goes on relentless ly. Her mother had tried talking with her but the girl sees nothing wrong with it.

For me sex can be love. i’ve been seeing a lady for a long time that has no interest in sex. I try to accept it. But an old girlfriend emailed. Guys like sex. Sorry. Guilty as charged. Its not like it hurts, is it?

So then why were men wired this way? To mate annually to procreate and be miserable the rest of the year.

Did the creator drop the ball here?

I have been clean since my first NA meeting in 1983. A lot of people will disagree with what I have to say here, but its true. The key to getting and staying sober is massive amounts of meetings. I went to 3 a day the first ten years. Now I go to about 10 a week. I just see that correlation.

But you gotta make it like going to the club. You gotta get involved with individuals there. Take them a cookie, loan them a book, flatter them. Make some anchor friends that you will look forward to seeing there. Make it fun.

I go to various halls and lots of their events. I take donuts and laugh it up with the guys.

Its my home away from home. And this works absolutely. Start watching the guys with 20 years. They come every day. But you are new, you need several times a day.

And if you do that, the old-timers will see that you are serious and buddy up to you.

You can do it once or keep screwing around.

There is never time to do it right, but there is always time to do it over, goes the old saying.

First read Getting Things Done by David Allen, then read it again.

Secondly get a Daytimer or Franklin planner.

Third, start using the planner.

Fourth, always go out for lunch, as it clears your head.

Fifth, get a mentor to get feedback.

Sixth, go away on the weekends.This gives perspective.

I am a rancher and work on the fences a lot. I have to ride to the back side every week to go thru the fences. I camp out for several nights. I take a pack mule and cook my food. Its a time to slow down. My cell does not work back there.I take a book and do some carving. I take my dogs. I like stopping for lunch, it feels like I earned it. I am always glad to get home to a hot shower and Netflix.

Something about the rhythm. The work progress. The old tools and the presence of the dogs. My late wife would always go and we made love under the stars. I think of her a lot when I an there. I was dominate and she was submissive. I was her hero. She was my love. We never had an argument. You can’t replace that. So I live a different life now. No sex and no loving.

I like things that work. Good saddles, strong rope, old tools, good gloves and heavy jeans. I like good food and a campfire. I like to have dogs with me. And a good horse is a blessing. I think the old west cowboys got it right. Honesty and integrity. Simplicity.