Breakup songs are hilarious in western society. Why? Because most of all breakup songs come in 2 categories. It’s either guys singing how “you’re the one”, “I can’t live without you”, “you’re my everything” or women singing “I can do better”, “I’ll survive”, “You were no good anyway.” and etc. Clearly a difference in tone. Men idolize women. Women idolize themselves lol. Having said this, after listening just a couple of Adele’s songs on the radio, I do have to say that they are unique in that they show what actually transpires when 2 people breakup.

Kudos to her.

As a frequent traveler, I kind of wish I had a busy travel schedule like you do. Always thought there is a lot of freedom, unpredictability and just new things to look forward to all the time in this kind of thing. In fact almost took a job that offered this but got scared away lol… Maybe one day…

The passion you were missing in those 25 years was LOVE from him, caring, a personal kind of caring. He was kind but that wasn’t love. You need a personal kind of … kindness, kindness delivered with emotion, with ENERGY-IN-MOTION. With your husband there was STATIC kindness, in place, not moving kindness. The hug with Andrew, that rush was that MOTION you needed all along.

Honestly, I have no sympathy for women like Tiffany Lucia, intuitivemind. Why? Because they settle. They settle in a nice comfortable life knowing that the person they are with doesn’t make their hearts pound but instead validates them and just makes them not feel alone. They know if they’re with a man who cares for them and understands them than they are probably doing the right thing by just staying and absorbing it. A few years into it they start wondering why they don’t feel they way they should for the guy they are with. Then it turns into a depression, especially if already married. Eventually, they make their life miserable and waste a good man’s life. I cannot imagine that intuitivemind’s husband didn’t know it in his gut that his wife wasn’t happy with him. This is why he let her go, not because he didn’t love her.

Good luck to you ladies. I have no advice for you but to stop wasting your good man’s time and do what you feel is right.

I’m not lonely. I am alone. And I feel fine with this. I think solitude is a great thing if appreciated.

Don’t ever become somebody’s option because once you do that’s all you’ll ever be.

You’re stepping out into the unknown. Don’t for a second think this is bad! All of us spend most of our days working hard and you deserve being happy with the work that you do so if you feel like it’s time to move on – do it! There is no feeling bad about it.

Oh boy, if i had a few hours to spare i’d tell you about my horrible love life. You’ve got nothing on me! lol. Here is the thing that i always seem to hear from women – i’m lonely and i need someone. No you don’t. You don’t need anyone but yourself. If you’re not happy with yourself you’re never going to be happy with anyone else. Unhappy people suffocate others with love because they forget to love themselves. You’re young. You’re free. You should be looking at the end of marriage as a brand new chapter. It doesn’t mean it’s time to jump into another relationship because you’re lonely. No! It’s perfect time to reflect on your life. It’s like a pit-stop. Change your tires, make some adjustments and keep going.

I don’t think there is anything worse than forcing yourself to find someone to spend your life with. People who force themselves to date really boggle my mind. Instead, why not try to enjoy your life? Travel! (I had an amazing hollywood-like romantic encounter on one of my backpacking trips a few years ago which unfortunately never came to be anything but an amazing story…) Meetup.com has a bunch of groups for just about any kind of activity. Make some friends and enjoy yourself and don’t worry about finding someone. They’ll find you!

What others think should not bother you. However, you mentioned kids and that you’d want to be a stay-at-home mom and raise kids but that won’t work on his salary. Have you talked to him about this at all? Have your had the kids talk? He may love his job and there is no need to shame him for it, but support him instead. However, things have to be realistic. Talk to him about starting a family and where that puts him as the main bread-winner. He’ll have to make some sort of adjustments not because you want him to, but because it’s the right thing to do.

-him not putting the toothpaste cap back on
-eating like a ravenous animal, never slowly
-when he makes our bed, he never does hospital corners
-he only vacuums the house once a fortnight
-he often forgets to put the toilet seat back down
-he doesn’t wash his hands before putting clothes on the line
-he doesn’t clean out the birdcage very often
-he sometimes burps after drinking a can of coke
-he used to call me “honey” but never does anymore

I personally think it’s humorous but serious and a bit shallow at the same time. I think at the end of the day your mother is getting to you and all these little things become bigger the more you listen to what she says about him. I can tell you right now that no man in 10-years time is going to look perfect and the things that you’ve listed seem very silly from where i’m sitting and I actually consider myself a man with good manners. You need to reevaluate what is important to you. I also think you guys need to communicate. I feel like there isn’t much of that happening.