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  • September 5, 2014 at 12:40 am in reply to: Letting Go and Fear of Attachment #64404
    Trevor
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    Thank you everybody for your excellent replies

    September 4, 2014 at 11:56 am in reply to: Want to Find a Special One but not at the Expense of Fun #64391
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    I also find it very difficult to “have fun” with someone I don’t feel close to and safe with… Which is problematic when dating seems to be a numbers game

    September 3, 2014 at 10:58 pm in reply to: How to Deal with Mortality? #64365
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    Sometimes I feel that the universe is warm and cares about me, and other times it feels as though the universe is indifferent and thrusts me into seemingly impossible situations. How can I trust it and let go when I am unsure of it’s true intentions?

    Sometimes I feel like there is no truth, the truth is what you make it, and that everything is subjective, but then how can I trust anything?

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    September 3, 2014 at 10:52 pm in reply to: How to Deal with Mortality? #64363
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    I sometimes feel that there is an afterlife or eternal cycle, but some of me feels like it is really hard to let go of my identity in this – what am I without my memories or family? It feels really scary and cold and lonely… Perhaps I am not meant to know. I sometimes get frustrated with the universe for thrusting me into these kinds of situations. I am immature and trying to find my way, hoping that at the end I am not just nothing and with nobody.

    I really appreciate your replies, sometimes hearing about other peoples’ experiences consoles me for a moment, but I know that I will need to face this alone. How do I do this?

    July 10, 2014 at 1:24 am in reply to: Polite Way to Tell Parents to Mind their Own Business? #60522
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    As I said, I am not disrespecting them in any way, screwing myself over in an attempt to be rebellious, and try my best to act polite, but often times I disagree with lifestyle choices and beliefs that they may have, and do not appreciate being unable to make any decisions about myself that do not affect them whatsoever. This may sound trivial, but I have a great deal of anxiety over this

    July 10, 2014 at 1:09 am in reply to: Polite Way to Tell Parents to Mind their Own Business? #60521
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    Thank you for the positive words of encouragement louise

    July 9, 2014 at 5:15 pm in reply to: Polite Way to Tell Parents to Mind their Own Business? #60498
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    And sometimes, it isn’t about trivial things – sometimes it’s a clash and imposition of beliefs that I might not agree with

    July 9, 2014 at 5:13 pm in reply to: Polite Way to Tell Parents to Mind their Own Business? #60497
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    I’m trying to be financially stable enough to move out, but at the moment I’m not really making nearly enough to pay for gas, phone, rent, food, etc. I feel really uncomfortable being treated like this

    June 23, 2014 at 10:16 am in reply to: Advice Dealing With Anger at Parents #59403
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    Thank you all for this Wisdom and a part of me I think knows that I can’t change other people I have to change myself. I think about meditating and try to find sources of anxiety and kind of focus on a mantra I come up with that refutes the anxious thought or belief.

    June 22, 2014 at 9:45 pm in reply to: Advice Dealing With Anger at Parents #59381
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    If someone would be comfortable I would really like someone to chat with or talk to about this, but any advice would be really great and make me happy

    Could it be that my blunted emotions are a result of bottling things up or that I am afraid to cry because I think my parents would ask why and be upset at the reason and I would feel disvalidated? Or am I putting blame on that and it’s really something I need to work on myself?

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    June 14, 2014 at 12:00 am in reply to: Dead Sex Drive Long After Breakup #58803
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    Wow thank you guys, this has really been helpful advice and the assurance/understanding/affirmation has too

    June 12, 2014 at 10:23 pm in reply to: Dead Sex Drive Long After Breakup #58761
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    As far as the relationship goes, I think I was a bit naive/inexperienced with life challenges at the time and so the girl I was with had a hard time relating with me. I think we were different in our walks of life, but I became attached and consequently I took the relationship really bad and I think I developed some bad thought patterns/beliefs and harbored some resentment about relationships after. We dated for over 2 years and I was really in a blissful state throughout the relationship, but I let my guard down and didn’t really think about us drifting apart

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    June 12, 2014 at 10:20 pm in reply to: Dead Sex Drive Long After Breakup #58759
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    Thank you, I appreciate the responses. Maybe I have been holding myself back from pursuing relationships and perhaps blaming things to justify it. This blunting makes me feel guilty about getting into a relationship where I cannot reciprocate feelings. Maybe I’ll just wait it out until I feel things are right. Maybe the effects of the psych meds or having had panic disorder made some neuronal changes and it just takes time for them to reverse and for the mojo to come back. I’ll try to just be patient I suppose. Working on my attitudes and thoughts is also probably something I’ll be asking for guidance with.

    June 12, 2014 at 7:17 pm in reply to: Dead Sex Drive Long After Breakup #58743
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    You are probably right. I have also been having a lot of trouble with this emotional blunting. It is sort of an inability to cry or “release.” I suppose it is probably best to just be patient and let the emotions “flow” when they “flow,” but a lot of the time there is this very annoying flatness of emotions/apathy that I am unsure is a result of the past use of meds or what. I tend to overthink things a lot which I am trying to do. It also puts a major limit on empathy for others (I don’t feel sad when I want to or really excited when I want to and so on).

    Maybe I just need to coax my emotions out somehow? I get really confused often, because for the first 18 years of my life none of this was a problem. I guess it doesn’t really matter if it is the meds or if it was mom or what. It’s difficult to continue on feeling this emotionally anhedonic/flat though. It’s hard to explain, but I really do appreciate the thoughts you have provided

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