sometimes if you can find an affirmation that lifts you up and away from fear, say it a few times and it will help.

one I used years ago is ” I am part of the universal design, I am loved by life itself”

and  this part of a Broadway show, The king and I?  ” When ever I feel afraid, I hold my head erect, and whistle a happy tune, so no one will suspect I’m afraid”

.my new one, because my ex was trying to put me down, say it loud!  “I   am   a    bright   shining   star !”

all gives confidence to me.. find yours.. good luck!

” Sometimes, giving people a second chance, such as the man you speak of, is like giving someone extra bullets because they missed you the first time.” very good, very good..

if you come from a family where you learned respect, with kindness and empathy. where anger is under control, and your boyfriend is not from that back ground, it will take him a long time to learn how to be that kind of a true kind person.

You do not want to wait for him to learn. He may never. some people will always carry that negative way with them. The kind emotional secure people are taught this in childhood.