Thank you TeaK for the perspective. You are exactly right…he is not sitting around on his ass, I hope I didn’t portray that. Also, just for clarity, we contribute equally from a housework and financial aspect. Maybe it’s the 2nd part of your last question that is bothering me. He doesn’t want to provide for a family, he wants to provide for himself and for us to split everything else, which I am okay with right now. I don’t know if that will change once we have kids. We have discussed this and he is not interested in being the sole provider. You also have some good points about his current spiritual development and being able to enjoy the present. For that, I think I am jealous.