Hi Ankita,

I had been going through this very recently and am finally starting to feel like each day now, a little more distant from the pain and hurt. There is no concrete time frame for how long you will feel like this however it will end, I promise. You just need to stay strong and try your hardest to keep looking forward because after break ups your head is so stuck in the past, it blinds you of the possibilities and potential your future has to offer!

As long as you separate yourself from him in ways you can control – not calling, texting or meeting up with him – you are doing the best you can. It’s ok to feel how you are feeling, because this is what will make you stronger when you get through it and come out the other side – knowing your real self worth and realising that he does not define that… only you can.

I had felt totally crushed – pathetic, not good enough, ashamed for loving someone so much who did not deserve it. And even though these feelings have not totally disappeared, I can see that it’s ok to have felt like that, because it allowed me to come to the realisation that this wasn’t true, and that’s the bit that matters to me.

You are heartbroken and allow yourself to feel the hurt however don’t let it consume you – I felt like even when I did go out with friends to enjoy myself or was laughing about something, that I was lying to myself as what I felt inside was torture and such sadness, any happiness I felt was false. However it helped even though it felt the opposite at the time. These are the hardest times but I promise you, this will make you stronger and you’ll grow so much from it. xx