Hi Anita,

I sent her a message yesterday and had no response. It was just a normal message mentioning something we spoke about on the last date.

In my mind I feel like I should wait to see if she contacts me now. I only say this because if she doesn’t I know that she has definitely got cold feet about something. I would honestly prefer her to just say if she wasn’t interested. I think 7 + dates and spending the night together warrants that but that’s just me. Apologies for the rant bust wanted to get it of my chest.

Do you think this is the right way to go or should I give it a few more days and reach out?

Any advice is greatly appreciated.

Hi Eliana,

No, when she came over we had such a great evening and she stayed the night. We went for some lunch the next day before she had to drive home. After that we didn’t see each other for nearly 3 weeks because of work and other plans (weddings, family visiting etc). It was during this break, the messages started to ease off. I did ask to have a phone call one evening but her sister was over for a few days from abroad and she wanted to enjoy her time with her so couldn’t speak.

We then had a meal last week which again went really well like all of our dates and we both had a great time. We kissed at the end of the night like all of other previous dates. Again though, I think it will be a few weeks before we see each other again because of work commitments etc. I don’t want to overthink her not messaging lots but obviously want to have some form of contact as would really like to see her again.

Quick Update:

We met for dinner on Thursday as she was working near me. Like all of our other dates it went really well and we had a good time, kissed at the end of the date etc.

She is very busy again with work for the next few weeks and has a wedding etc so not sure when we will see each other again but we both agreed that we would. Since then we have messaged briefly and it was me who sent the first message. Should I reach out again in a few days and see if she is ok or wait to see if she reaches out to me?

I guess I just don’t want to come across a bit needy and keen but on the flip side I do really like spending time with her. I know the practicalities with the distance etc aren’t the best so am also wary of setting myself up for disappointment in the long run.

Also, should I still speak to other people or not? We haven’t spoken about anything like that so I have no idea whether or not she is. Perhaps she is and that is why her messages etc are now less frequent.

Any thoughts would be appreciated?