Hello Anita,
Thank you for your question. Over the past year or so, he’s become less confrontational. I think he’s slowly beginning to see how his lashing out pushes his family away. He still loses it over things that most parents wouldn’t bat an eye at (or even be proud of/happy about), but it’s less often, which has made me less scared of him. Therefore, I do talk to him a bit more. His lashing out scares me a bit less too. I realize that 99% of the time, his anger isn’t my fault. That doesn’t stop his yelling from throwing me into a panic attack, though (I’ve told him this while he was yelling at me before, and he essentially told me that he’s glad I’m suffering, because I make him suffer “all the time”).
I’m sorry if that was a bit long, but I hope that answers your questions!