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  • April 22, 2014 at 4:10 am in reply to: stuck with the guilt and anger about past #55179
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    Thanks Matt. I see that letting go and metta are the central theme around learning from mistakes – ours or theirs, and seeing things clearly.

    Letting go is an idea which I do not fully understand. To get out of the stuck feelings, I usually have to divert my mind for a long time towards something which is effortlessly interesting – it looks like the mind is trying to find something else to attach to which is not painful. If I put in conscious effort to divert the mind, it keeps coming back to the very things which I am trying to let go. The more I try to let go, the more effort I put in and it is exhausting. I guess this is not really how letting go works. There seems to be something deep and non-verbal in the mind which justifies attachment instead of letting go.

    I admit to having very little metta at this stage within me for myself and others. Will consider the guided meditation from Sharon Salzburg.

    April 22, 2014 at 3:41 am in reply to: stuck with the guilt and anger about past #55177
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    Thanks Danger. I did try to change the thinking a bit and felt a tiny bit good. There are 3 stages in which I usually am (1) Free from the mental burden (2) about to take up the burden and (3) caught with the burden. Many a times, the victim mentality as described takes over and I slip from (1) to (2) to (3) and once in stage (3), it requires a lot of effort and more importantly time to get out of the the stage. I do try to stop myself but sometimes the mind says ‘you did make the mistake’ and so it spirals down with the justification of the mistake as a proof that that is how things should be.

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