You are right; I guess it’s fear i hold on to. My mother is terrified that i will make the same mistakes as her when it comes to decisions involving men. My mother’s opinion has always impacted my life some way or the other. I am 24 years old. Me and my boyfriend recently got over a really tough time in our relationship and during that time I’ve been reading lots and lots of self help books to help me figure myself out some more. My mother is afraid that guilt may be holding me here or hope. But to me i feel as long as him and I can communicate why should there be any problem at all? He once was able to make me feel very insecure but that was back before I understood that the opinion of others, should have no affect on me so long as i am Ok and accepting of my flaws and strengths as a whole. But now that time has passed and I’m where I’m at now mentally and emotionally, i feel that nothing he says can alter my belief of myself. That’s why i feel my mother isn’t too convinced when it comes to him. Which is fine, everyone will have their opinion, its just my mothers opinion has more of a hold on me unfortunately. We’ve (me and my bf) been in contact but everyone in my circle with the exception of two people, don’t know the truth. They’re under the impression that we broke up and we have NO contact with each other anymore. I know that falls on me but im just trying to explain how much my mothers opinion effects me.