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TareqParticipant
Hi Annie
First of I would like to say that you are not the only one with this problem. I am a guy and I WAS having this problem with my girlfriend of 1 year as well. Funny thing is your post gave me answers to solve your problems.
First of all, you TRUST that he never cheated on you and gave you enough reasons to make you TRUST him. Whenever you feel angry about something he did or said, just try to reassure yourself of this trust you have on him. I do not know about others, but I believe trust is more important than love in a relationship. I am glad you have that covered.
Secondly, I love how you explained yourself to him and he actually understood you and sorted it out with you! I cant think of anything better to ask from a relationship than this. Both of you understand each other to fix a matter that could have ignited a fight in an unsuccessful relationship. So next time when you begin to feel resentful towards him about something, just tell him what’s bugging you.
Anger, hatred all of this terrible things are just inside the head, not in the heart. To get rid of that you need to constantly reassure yourself what a wonderful relation you have with your man. Try to do something together at least every week, that you both enjoy. For that week, for each day keep reminding yourself the wonderful time you spent with your guy. I believe this will reduce your unnecessary anger and suspicions greatly.
Finally, since its directed towards him only, I think it means you are constantly thinking only about him. If I am correct, stop thinking about him all the time. He is a human being and he needs time and space of his own just like you do. So pick up a hobby or activity that you can do and keep your attention away from the fact that you are constantly missing him.
If I may add my experience just to justify my opinions. I have a 1 year relation with a girl online, she lives couple thousand miles away from me. May not seem much lively or realistic to many people, but it is for me and my heart. I was and am already happy talking,chatting, texting, video calling, playing online games, drawing,watching movies,videos with her. The best thing we have between us is our TRUST, as I mentioned I value above all. Many people have been trying to convince me that online relations do not work and they are not realistic. Then regretfully I started having doubts like you, getting angry at her short responses, not spending time with me. She confronted me and said, do not run away from our problems, just tell me what’s bugging you. I explained it to her, the way I explained she should have cried cause I felt like breaking her heart. But this girl is so strong she took it to her guts and understood me and sorted it out just like how it worked with you. And she said the exact same thing, “tell me when you feel like this and we can talk it out” (will never forget these words). In fact, this incident happened with me just few weeks back, so I could instantly connect with your situation.
Hope sharing my opinions and experience helps with your problem as well. Good luck!
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