Hi.

I have a partner who is battling with depression at this point. It is not an easy job, I mean being with him in the struggle, just like what Peter has mentioned. Sometimes I do wonder, is this a waste of time, still hanging onto this relationship? But, something…something just made me hold onto this. I chose to think positively in order to cope with the struggle. For example, I try to see the good side of this illness which comes in between our relationship. I have learnt to be more understanding, sensitive, and appreciate simple things in life (that is little response from him at his point of depression).

I know I can never get into a depressed person’s mind and feel what they are feeling. But I do get it at some point of our lives, we do feel depressed over certain things but for a person suffering from depression, the depressed feeling just won’t go away. He can be so hopeless and helpless that he dread waking up in the morning.
I am trying to understand that he is not in a well state, suffering from an illness which will get better soon. Depression is just like any other illness which can be cured.

If you really do not know what to do, get your boyfriend or your closed family member to accompany you to a Psychiatrist. Talk to him/her about your condition, and they might prescribe you some medications, trust me, the meds will help you a lot. Don’t be afraid to go for meds because when you are feeling so helpless, sometimes, you just need the meds to do the job.

It is ok if you do not know what to do, that’s because you are experiencing the symptoms of Depression. I don’t know if OCD has similar symptoms though. If you don’t feel like doing anything, or need to take a break from work, just do it. But you definitely need to seek treatment. You may want to put your dreams on hold at the moment, and consider quitting your job which you think is dissatisfying to you. You don’t want the stress from your “shitty” job to worsen your condition. Your mental health is more important than your job, once you get better, you can look for another simpler job, and then go ahead to pursue your dreams.

Please know that, you are not alone in this.

All the best!